Adrian Symonds Mediation Associates

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19/12/2011

Comox Valley Mediation

"John Beebe, who has made a lifetime's study of the psychological depths of integrity, says that we learn about integrity when someone brings us their genuine outrage and we have it in us to see what they are talking about and why it was felt as a violation. Letting in that sense of the other's violation might bring a hot scorch of shame, but in the wake of the bushfire appear the truly amazing green shoots of recovery...(cont)

12/10/2011

October 11, 2011

06/10/2011

Comox Valley Mediation: Thich Nhat Hanh and the Conflict Resolution Practice, 'Beginning Anew'

Thich Nhat Hanh and the Conflict Resolution Practice, 'Beginning Anew': This is a mediation practice introduced to me by my Parent/Teen Mediation partner. Anne experienced this workshop presented by thich nhat hanh, a Vietnamese Zen master. In Plum Village, the Buddhist center in France, they use this process of dealing with conflict to minimize tensions that can be created by living together with strangers for a long period of time.....con't

Relationship in a mess? Adrian Symonds Mediation Associates emphasizes a solution oriented approach to mediation. Contact Adrian Symonds at 250 898 8201 or [email protected]. Relax. Smile. It will be all right.

06/10/2011

Comox Valley Mediation: Analysis of how a conversation turns into conflict

Analysis of how a conversation turns into conflict: "Let us suppose you are to meet a friend for lunch. Naturally, when you meet you will talk together. First you say something, then your friend will say something in reply, then you will say something, and on and on. That is the way a good conversation goes. After the conversation, you will feel quite relaxed. You will like your friend....con't

Relationship in a mess? Adrian Symonds Mediation Associates emphasizes a solution oriented approach to mediation. Contact Adrian Symonds at 250 898 8201 or [email protected]. Relax. Smile. It will be all right.

06/10/2011

Comox Valley Mediation: Heard this before? listening in mediation is so important!

Heard This Before? Listening in Mediation is so Important! In the mediation world, we always hear so much about listening. With good reason. Most of us already know what the other person thinks before the words come out of his/her mouth. Listen to them? Well, we sort of go through the motion. And at the very best, we are patient with our talker because we can't wait to get our own comparison, analysis and concise judgement of the situation to 'really seal the deal'. And remember, mediators can be just as bad as the mediated!


We are RIGHT before the other person(s) even manifests the thoughts in their brain(s), let alone puts neural impulse into speech formation.


Watch this you-tube. It's about old-time doctoring and it's authored by a very high tech Stanford teaching physician. We will get a better idea about the importance of listening. Mediators can learn from this one too: it's about the listening, not the method of diagnosis. Check out on TED TALKS:

Abraham Verghese: A doctor's touch http://www.ted.com/talks/abraham_verghese_a_doctor_s_touch.html

Relationship in a mess? Adrian Symonds Mediation Associates emphasizes a solution oriented approach to mediation. Contact Adrian Symonds at 250 898 8201 or [email protected]. Relax. Smile. It will be all right.

08/08/2011

Comox Valley Mediation

The emphasis in mediation is a little different from therapy. The mediator listens to one story, and says, "Wow, these problems must be causing you great consternation. It must be very difficult to live with this other person."

Then the mediator listens to the other story, and says,"Wow, ...

Relationship in a mess? Adrian Symonds Mediation Associates emphasizes a solution oriented approach to mediation. Contact Adrian Symonds at 250 898 8201 or [email protected]. Relax. Smile. It will be all right.

08/08/2011

Comox Valley Mediation

Can violence in the relationship be mediated? Only and absolutely only if the process and consequences of mediation do not threaten the safety of any individual. The desire to mediate should involve a movement in mind, speech and action from the realm of circle one ABUSE OF FAMILY MEMBERS, to circle two, MUTUAL RESPECT toward family members.

Relationship in a mess? Adrian Symonds Mediation Associates emphasizes a solution oriented approach to mediation. Contact Adrian Symonds at 250 898 8201 or [email protected]. Relax. Smile. It will be all right.

19/07/2011

Comox Valley Mediation

Adrian is starting a private mediation company for people in relationship distress.

Relationship in a mess? Adrian Symonds Mediation Associates emphasizes a solution oriented approach to mediation. Contact Adrian Symonds at 250 898 8201 or [email protected]. Relax. Smile. It will be all right.