DoSo! Coaching & Counseling

DoSo! Coaching & Counseling Coaching international clients to a fulfilling & successful career
How? The objective of DoSo! In my approach I primarily focus on the accompanying partner.

With custom coaching sessions designed from 10+ years of experience, 1000s coaching sessions
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calendly.com/dklopsowinska/45minpowercoaching Coaching & Counseling is to support international women in the following areas: expatriation coaching, life & career coaching, counseling, workshops. My company assist international companies by helping their expat employees and the

ir partners to feel at home during the critical settling in period and stay in the Netherlands (or elsewhere in the world). Stress resulting from a long lasting feeling of dissatisfaction of the partner can have a negative effect on the whole family and on the expat employee in particular leading to less efficiency at work and in some cases to the early termination of the international assignment, or even break-up of the family. How can my company help? Through the program “Making Holland Your Second Home” DoSo! Coaching & Counseling helps to empower expat women to have a fulfilled life during their stay in the Netherlands as well when returning to their home country. As a result of the program they will experience their live in the Netherlands as an exciting adventure full of opportunities rather than a hurdle that one has to overcome. Better understand the cultural differences between the Dutch culture and her own culture and how the Dutch culture works in practice. The company provides support for international women in the following areas: expatriation coaching, life & career coaching, counseling, workshops.

The first few seconds of an elevator pitch are crucial.It’s about capturing attention immediately and giving a sense of ...
04/11/2024

The first few seconds of an elevator pitch are crucial.

It’s about capturing attention immediately and giving a sense of who you are. Start with clarity – be straightforward about your role and what makes your work unique.

Here’s a quick guide:

1️⃣ Define your role with purpose – Instead of simply stating your title, highlight what you actually do or the impact you drive.

2️⃣ Connect it to your value – Briefly share what makes you unique or how you bring value in your field.

3️⃣ Be concise and authentic – Be direct but personal. Let your personality show through to make it memorable.

A strong opening sets the stage for an engaging pitch. How do you start yours? 👇

When I help my coaching clients shape their personal brand, an engaging approach we explore is tapping into the psycholo...
01/11/2024

When I help my coaching clients shape their personal brand, an engaging approach we explore is tapping into the psychology of color personality types.

This concept, inspired by one of my favorite books, Surrounded by Idiots by Thomas Erikson, helps my clients define and align their brand's tone, attitude, and values based on their personality color, creating a deeper emotional and visual connection with their audience.

Red (Confident & Assertive):

Tone: Bold, straightforward.

Keywords: Lead, challenge, empower.

Colors: Red, black, gold.

Example: “I take control of tough challenges and deliver results.”

Yellow (Optimistic & Future-Oriented):

Tone: Positive, enthusiastic.

Keywords: Create, envision, motivate.

Colors: Yellow, bright pink, orange.

Example: “I’m passionate about contributing fresh ideas.”

Green (Compassionate & Supportive):

Tone: Compassionate, nurturing.

Keywords: Support, listen, guide.

Colors: Soft green, lavender.

Example: “I’m here to support others every step of the way.”

Blue (Rational & Technical):

Tone: Analytical, precise.

Keywords: Analyze, evaluate, optimize.

Colors: Blue, white, silver.

Example: “My solutions are based on research for reliable results.”

You can mix and match these to represent the traits you want too!

Have you thought about this aspect of personal branding?

Do you want to work on your personal brand in order to advance your career?

Send me a DM “BRAND” and we will talk further on how I can help you to craft your unique brand.

Communicating with confidence doesn’t happen overnight—it’s a skill that requires self-awareness, practice, and a willin...
28/10/2024

Communicating with confidence doesn’t happen overnight—it’s a skill that requires self-awareness, practice, and a willingness to learn from every conversation.

Remember, confidence is not about being the loudest or the most dominant voice in the room. It’s about expressing yourself with clarity, conviction, and respect for others.

As you develop these abilities, you’ll notice positive changes not only in how others perceive you but also in how you view yourself.

If you want to book a free call discuss how you can become a confident communicator, DM me COMMUNICATION.

When navigating challenging interactions in the workplace, understanding this simple yet profound truth can transform ho...
01/10/2024

When navigating challenging interactions in the workplace, understanding this simple yet profound truth can transform how we deal with difficult personalities.

In a recent discussion on handling difficult behavior at work, one key takeaway stood out: it's not just about setting boundaries or standing your ground, but also about listening, empathizing, and acknowledging the other person’s point of view. Whether you're dealing with an Aggressor, a Credit Taker, or a Rigid Thinker, recognizing their underlying needs can shift your approach.

👉 Stay calm when tensions rise.
👉 Use "I statements" to express the impact of their behavior.
👉 Keep interactions professional and fact-based.
👉 Set clear boundaries and stick to them.

Balancing empathy with assertiveness helps manage challenging situations while fostering respect and accountability.

Whatever you want to achieve in life starts with self-exploration 💡And if you want to influence the people around you, i...
19/09/2024

Whatever you want to achieve in life starts with self-exploration 💡

And if you want to influence the people around you, it starts by influencing yourself

💫 Invest in yourself

You are your best asset, so invest time, money, and energy in yourself. Focus on strengthening your top skills rather than improving weaknesses for the greatest impact.

💫 Know yourself

Become your own best friend by understanding your values, talents, and passions. This self-awareness makes life and career decisions, like moving or changing jobs, much easier.

💫 Take care of yourself

You are your own best asset—do you care for yourself as you would for a prized car? Just as a car needs attention and maintenance, your body and mind require love and care to keep moving forward.

💫 Build your personal brand

Personal branding isn't just for companies—it's for you too. Build a strong, consistent brand by sharing your expertise online, where potential clients and employers are active. This applies whether you're self-employed or working for someone else.

Your career will be as great as the people who support you and promote you 🤝So it’s important to identify the people tha...
18/09/2024

Your career will be as great as the people who support you and promote you 🤝

So it’s important to identify the people that can help you and develop your network alongside

🔎 Know your supporters

To build strong support, focus on helping others first. My move to the Netherlands was made possible by two supportive bosses, whom I helped by going above and beyond in my work. This reflects the principle of reciprocity: offer value to others, and they will support you in return.

🔎 Know your gatekeepers

Who are the people that stand between you and your goals, such as recruiters or decision-makers? Build relationships with them early, like I did with the admissions board for my coaching program. Anticipating challenges and leveraging supporters will help you unlock opportunities

🔎 Know your direction

What drives your career— a specific country, a job opportunity, an industry, your passion, or a deeper sense of purpose, something else? My move to the Netherlands was motivated by love, my career jump was motivated by my passion and purpose. Reflect on what matters most to you and the lifestyle you want. Are you content with where you are now?

What’s the key to dealing with difficult people?According to me it is a combination of empathy, self-confidence, clear c...
12/09/2024

What’s the key to dealing with difficult people?

According to me it is a combination of empathy, self-confidence, clear communication, and self-care.

Reflect on your own behaviors and identify areas where you can improve your interactions with others and practice one strategy at a time to gradually build your skills in managing difficult situations. 🧘🏻‍♀️

👉🏻 Stay Calm: Maintain composure, especially in confrontational situations.

👉🏻 Listen Actively: Show empathy by acknowledging others' viewpoints.

👉🏻 Set Clear Boundaries: Communicate limits firmly and consistently.

👉🏻 Use "I" Statements: Express your needs without blaming others.

👉🏻 Focus on Solutions: Shift conversations from problems to solutions.

👉🏻 Document Interactions: Keep records, especially with credit takers and unreliable types.

👉🏻 Avoid Power Struggles: Know when to disengage from unproductive conflicts.

👉🏻 Practice Self-Care: Protect your well-being by engaging in activities that help manage stress.

👉🏻 Promote a Positive Environment: Advocate for respect and collaboration within your team.

I was brought to tears by my boss once in my life. I was 21, inexperienced, and a bit naive—just like a 21-year-old shou...
10/09/2024

I was brought to tears by my boss once in my life. I was 21, inexperienced, and a bit naive—just like a 21-year-old should be, right?

Unfortunately, I also had the bad luck of encountering a female bully. That experience taught me a lot about the kinds of people to avoid.

I'm sure you've also encountered a difficult person in your organization or life at some point.

So, how do you arm yourself to handle a difficult personality in a way that's both respectful and assertive?

Each type requires a slightly different approach.

Take a moment to understand the kind of person you're dealing with and respond in a way that is applicable to them. ✨

What's the most challenging personality you've faced at work?

Share your thoughts in the comments below! 👇🏻"

"My wake-up call came on a warm September morning, exactly 17 years ago. I opened my eyes. I tried to look around but I ...
05/09/2024

"My wake-up call came on a warm September morning, exactly 17 years ago. I opened my eyes. I tried to look around but I could not move, as there were needles and pipes attached to every part of my body. I wanted to say something but I had a tube in my throat. It was a respirator.

After a while, the nurse noticed that I was awake and came over to my bed. She smiled and said “Good morning” in a nice calming tone, then gave me a pen and paper. My hand shaking, I wrote, “What happened?” She told me that the doctor would be with me shortly.

The last thing I remembered was that I had given birth to a beautiful baby girl. There were complications with my placenta, though, so I had to be operated on under full anesthetic. I remember feeling scared and exhausted but I pretended to be calm and relaxed, as I didn’t want to take anything away from my husband’s experience of that joyful moment.

I just asked how long it would take. The doctor assured me that I would be back with my baby and husband within two hours. So when I noticed that it was seven o’clock, I thought it was seven that evening. It turned out to be the morning of the next day. And I was lying in intensive care. That night my life was hanging on a thin thread."

This is the beginning on my book Career Jump! and my own story, which put me on the path of changing my career, and doing the job I love - being a coach. Although at the time, I liked my job as internal auditor, I always deep down inside knew I wanted to do something I was passionate about and something had a deeper meaning for me.

This was my wake up call, which I decided not to ignore anymore. I was given a second chance not to be wasted.

Today I am celebrating the 17th birthday of our amazing daughter Julia. As all parents we are proud of her. I am proud also of myself that I did take my life in my own hands and although being international in the NL was not always easy I decided to turn all the weaknesses into strengths. And so I became an international purpose-driven career coach in Amsterdam.

I do not want to sound like I am preaching, but I want to let you know that if you have that silent voice in you saying "you can do more, you can do something different in your life and career" do NOT ignore it.

Listen to it intently and hear what it is saying. It takes courage to go against the flaw but so worth it. You can do it!

Sending all the love today and positive thoughts.

🫣 “If I speak up, I’ll be judged or rejected.”😞 “Only people in higher positions can speak up.”🙅🏻‍♀️ “I don’t want to bo...
03/09/2024

🫣 “If I speak up, I’ll be judged or rejected.”

😞 “Only people in higher positions can speak up.”

🙅🏻‍♀️ “I don’t want to bother other with my needs.”

Instead what if you thought:

💡 "If I speak up, I have the opportunity to share valuable insights."

💁🏻‍♀️ “Everyone’s voice matters, regardless of their position.”

💗 "My needs are important and valid."

Self advocacy isn’t just about changing your inner dialogue. It’s about starting a positive cycle which impacts your career in a positive matter like:

✅ Gaining access to resources by clearly communicating your needs

✅ Helps you showcase your achievements, skills, and contributions, leading to greater recognition from colleagues, managers, and stakeholders

✅ Advocating for yourself positions you for promotions, raises, and leadership roles

✅ Helps in taking control of your narrative and make you more self confident

✅ Fosters a mindset of resilience and continuous growth

✅ Helps in building a supportive network of allies and mentors who can provide guidance, support, and advocacy on your behalf.

Remember, your actions and decisions today will shape your future.

Ready to work on your career progression?

Send me a DM and I will send you a copy of brand new workbook “Self-advocacy at Work: Empowering Your Voice & Tracking Your Growth”

Whether you’re seeking a promotion, negotiating a raise, or simply aiming to make your voice heard, mastering the art of...
02/09/2024

Whether you’re seeking a promotion, negotiating a raise, or simply aiming to make your voice heard, mastering the art of self-advocacy can transform your career trajectory.

But how do you start? Here are some powerful tools to help you advocate for yourself effectively:

1️⃣ Understanding Your Own Needs and Goals:

Reflect on what you need from your work and how you can communicate these needs effectively.

2️⃣Hype Doc:

👉🏻 A Hype Doc is a digital document that showcases your professional and personal achievements, goals, strengths, and key projects.

👉🏻 It can include:

-- Professional Goals: Where you want to see yourself in 1, 3, or 5 years.

-- Key Skills and Talents: Both hard and soft skills.

-- Key Achievements: A record of significant milestones in your career.

-- Testimonials and Evaluations: Positive feedback from bosses, colleagues, or clients.

-- Certifications and Courses: Relevant professional qualifications.

-- Awards and Publications: Any recognitions or articles you've contributed to.

-- Public Appearances: Participation in conferences, podcasts, or interviews.

👉🏻 The Hype Doc can be used during evaluations, job interviews, self-reflection, and for sharing with others to boost your self-confidence.

3️⃣ Speaking Up:

One of the main tools for self-advocacy is simply raising your voice and communicating your needs and achievements.

4️⃣ Building Powerful Relationships:

👉🏻 Identify Internal Connections:

Make a list of your colleagues, bosses, and key stakeholders.

👉🏻 Identify Allies and Gatekeepers:

Determine who supports you (allies) and who might be hindering your progress (gatekeepers).

👉🏻 Understand Their Needs:

Put yourself in their shoes to understand their challenges and how you can help them.

👉🏻 Networking:

Mix formal and informal interactions to strengthen relationships within your organization.

Ready to work on your career progression?

Send me a DM and I will send you a copy of brand new workbook “Self-advocacy at Work: Empowering Your Voice & Tracking Your Growth”

😍The honeymoon phase of leadership in a new country can be exhilarating. Everything feels fresh, and you're eager to tak...
29/08/2024

😍The honeymoon phase of leadership in a new country can be exhilarating. Everything feels fresh, and you're eager to take on the world.

😖However, challenges soon arise—leading in a new culture can be tough. You may struggle to understand different ways of thinking and working.

😮‍💨Over time, you start to adjust, adapting your leadership style and learning to navigate the new environment.

😌Eventually, you find your rhythm. You feel more confident, comfortable, and capable of leading effectively.

If you've ever taken on a leadership role in a new culture, these phases may be familiar.

Leading in a new country has its challenges, but here are some ways to make the transition smoother:

➡️ Recognize that adjusting to a new cultural leadership style is normal. Most leaders experience these growing pains.

➡️ Educate yourself on the local business culture and leadership expectations before you start. Understanding nuances can prevent missteps.

➡️ If possible, visit the country ahead of time to observe and experience workplace dynamics.

➡️ Learning the local language (or key phrases) can make a huge difference. Communication is crucial, and effort in language builds team relationships.

➡️ Build relationships with local colleagues. Understand their perspectives, attend events, and get involved in the community.

➡️ Don’t hesitate to ask for support if you're unsure about cultural expectations. Seeking guidance shows humility and builds trust.

➡️ Focus on the positives of the new business culture. What strengths can you leverage to be a better leader?

➡️ Avoid assuming your leadership style is "better." Every culture has unique strengths—find a balance.

➡️ A common mistake is assuming things will work as they did in your previous country. For example, a nod might not mean agreement—it’s essential to read between the lines.

➡️ Communication is key. Ask questions to clarify meaning, and check in regularly with your team to ensure you're on the same page.

What was the biggest cultural leadership challenge you faced when you moved to the Netherlands? Let’s share stories! 👇

I’m a true bookworm. These are my absolute top 3—I swear by them! They’ll completely change how you view communication, ...
19/08/2024

I’m a true bookworm. These are my absolute top 3—I swear by them! They’ll completely change how you view communication, leadership, and negotiation. Honestly, these might just be the best self-help books I’ve ever read:

"Never Split the Difference" by Chris Voss - This one’s a game-changer. Chris Voss, a former FBI negotiator, teaches the art of negotiation in a way that’s both practical and powerful. It’s not just about striking deals; it’s about communicating effectively to build stronger relationships at work.

This book inspired me so much that I took a one-on-one coaching sessions with the Black Swan Group—it was an incredible experience that deepened my understanding of negotiation and communication even further.

"Quiet Leadership" by David Rock - I’ve always believed that great leadership starts with understanding the people you lead. Rock’s book dives into neuroscience-based strategies that help you lead with insight. If you’re looking to inspire your team, boost productivity, and create a positive work environment, this is a must-read.

I was so inspired that I also completed coaching studies at the NeuroLeadership Institute, founded by David Rock. The insights I gained have been invaluable in enhancing my coaching approach.

"Games People Play" by Eric Berne - This one really opened my eyes—and my clients' eyes too. Understanding the psychological games we all play can transform the way we interact with others, both personally and professionally.

Berne’s insights into human behavior have not only helped my clients to navigate workplace dynamics with more empathy and effectiveness but also provided my clients with a simple yet powerful communication mechanism that has significantly improved their professional relationships and private ones too.

Have you read any of these? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments!

How do you prepare for the most common but often most dreaded interview questions?Before you respond, consider the inten...
29/07/2024

How do you prepare for the most common but often most dreaded interview questions?

Before you respond, consider the intention behind the question: What is the recruiter trying to find out? In most cases, it will be one of these three crucial things:

Do you have the right skills to do the job?

Will you love the job?

Will you fit into the team?

Keep the "relevance rule" in mind. Before answering, think about how relevant your response is to the job you're applying for.

Thanks for the inspiration for that post/graphic Justin Mecham.

During most evaluation conversations, we are often told to keep on working on our weaknesses 🤔We are sent to different t...
25/07/2024

During most evaluation conversations, we are often told to keep on working on our weaknesses 🤔

We are sent to different training courses, coaching programs, etc. that needs us to do better at our job 🪜

What often remains neglected in those conversations is that our greatest weaknesses actually point us in the direction of our biggest strength.

We often do not realise that both our talents and weaknesses belong to the same “coin” and represent both sides of it: there cannot be light if there is no darkness, there cannot be good without evil and there cannot be empathy without egoism. 🪙

You can use this for your own development in a different way as follows:

1️⃣ List Your Talents: Write down all your strengths and then consider their shadow sides. Which of these strengths sometimes get out of control?

2️⃣ Dose Your Talents: Think about how you can balance your talents. What strategies can you put in place to stay in your power and avoid the pitfalls?

3️⃣ Identify Shadow Talents: Make a list of these shadow talents and reflect on the core positive qualities they hint at.

4️⃣ Spot Your Allergies: Think about the behaviors in others that irritate you the most. Analyze these to uncover your own challenges, pitfalls, and core talents.

5️⃣ Embrace Both: Reflect on how you can acknowledge and embrace both your talents and your challenges simultaneously.

How will YOU turn your weaknesses into your strength? Share in the comments below! 👇🏻

✅ Find out what recruiters really want to hear during the job interview✅ Make a defined action plan✅ Learn what mistakes...
22/07/2024

✅ Find out what recruiters really want to hear during the job interview

✅ Make a defined action plan

✅ Learn what mistakes you might be making in your CV and Cover Letter and how to fix them

✅ Get your CV / CL reviewed in detail by a professional

✅ Defining a strategy for your job search

✅ Get your LinkedIn profile reviewed in detail

✅ Learn how to effectively search for a job in the Netherlands

✅ Learn how to approach the hidden job market (40% of the job market)

✅ Learn how to successfully use social media in your job search

✅ Learn how to use your network in order to get a job

✅ Access to DoSo! extended network

This and a lot more

I can help you if you are you looking for a job in the Netherlands but feel stuck at the moment.

DM COACH to book a free 20-minute session with me to find out more

We spent hours, days, months, and years at work 👩🏻‍💻👩🏻‍💻👩🏻‍💻👩🏻‍💻👩🏻‍💻How we function at work has a great impact on our fu...
18/07/2024

We spent hours, days, months, and years at work 👩🏻‍💻👩🏻‍💻👩🏻‍💻👩🏻‍💻👩🏻‍💻

How we function at work has a great impact on our functioning in all other areas. That is why it is so important to have work that we truly enjoy.

And when do we enjoy working? When the job that we do is our passion 💪🏻

In a dynamic and ever-evolving job landscape, having a coach who understands your unique aspirations can make all the difference.

With the right career coaching, you will find out which career path is right for you and what steps you need to take to achieve your professional goals. 🎯

Furthermore, you will discover what stops you from getting where you want to be and how to overcome those obstacles. 🦘

During coaching sessions you will discover your talents, skills and you will learn how to develop confidence in yourself.

At last, you will create your personal action plan to ensure you meet your goals. ✨

That’s where I come in! As your Career Coach, I don’t just offer guidance—I’m your collaborator in crafting the career you’ve always envisioned

Confused if career coaching is the right thing for you? 🤔

DM me COACH to book a 20 minutes free call and understand if this is the right fit 📞

One of the most common questions I get from my clients is, “How do I negotiate my salary in the Netherlands?” 💸💸💸Let’s b...
08/07/2024

One of the most common questions I get from my clients is, “How do I negotiate my salary in the Netherlands?” 💸💸💸

Let’s be real – no one loves having this conversation. The fear of selling yourself short or pricing yourself out of the market can be paralyzing 🥶.

But here’s the deal: negotiating your salary is a game you’ve got to play if you want to get paid what you’re worth 💰.

Most companies have salary ranges for roles, yet some candidates negotiate above the range, while others end up below.

Spoiler alert ‼️ : it’s not always about qualifications.

So, what’s the secret? 🤫 Preparation, self-confidence, and nerves of steel.

How do you feel about negotiating your salary? Drop a comment below and share what’s worked for you!

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