11/29/2016
The persistent thought for me today is about living in in authenticity and expressing truth. Caroline Myss has been one of my teachers for many years. I've read many of her books, attended a few of her workshops, and watched and listened to teachings. I saw her just recently at Celebrate your Life in Scottsdale, Arizona. She is a wordsmith and is very careful in her selection of the spoken word.
In speaking truth it is wise to remember the power a word can have. For the most part, truth is relative. What is a truth for me may not be a truth for anyone else. When I speak my truth, I own it and identify it as my truth. How many times have you heard hurtful words spoken under the guise of I am speaking my truth. Many years ago I took my mother out to dinner. Taking my mother out to dinner was more a duty I believed I had by the simple act of being her daughter and not because I really wanted to spend time with my mother. After listening the the tirade on how her neighbors in the apartment complex needed to change their ways or move because what they were doing in their home disturbed her, I spoke out and suggested that rather than insisting that her neighbors be forced to move that maybe she should move.
What I offered was I viable option. It was not what my mother wanted to hear. The animosity she was expressing about her neighbors was justified in her mind by the statement she was expressing her truth. While truth can hurt, is what is being said in the name of truth actually the truth or a way to manipulate a situation to your own benefit? I've spoken unpleasant and painful truths to others. My practice when I am asked to speak a truth as I perceive it when I know that what I will say will be unpleasant or painful is to ask the person asking is "Are you sure you want to hear me?" If they say yes, I internally ask for the grace to express what must be said in the manner that will serve the best interests of all. It doesn't release me from my portion of the responsibility of the consequences. It does help to define my degree of responsibility.
Remember the power of your words and the consequences they may have.
Blessings of love and strength.
Suellen