10/23/2024
"Boundaries aren't just about protecting ourselves; they're also about communicating our worth, both to OURSELVES and others.
When you set a boundary, you're saying, "I’m worthy of being respected, cared for, and protected." It's a statement of what you deserve, not just what you’ll tolerate. Orienting your boundaries to your values can transform them from being (self) perceived as a defensive tool to something that is actually affirming.
Think of it like this: boundaries reflect how much you value your time, energy, and emotional space. When you know your value, your boundaries become not just a blank meeting place, but an invitation to connect in a healthier, more meaningful way. You’re saying, “This is how you can engage with me in a way that authentically honors both of us.
It is vulnerable, to show up in this way. Sometimes the scariest thing to do is share what vitally matters to you with another person. It takes bravery to operate in this way. It's also what's needed - to move from a culture where obligation and resentment have been made invisible and normalized like the air, by the overriding of autonomy that patriarchal colonialism has brought us." Troi
