MKDoebler Coaching & Consulting

12/31/2022

Happy New Year! ❤️

Farewell 2022 ...

10/03/2022

To all my friends who are daring greatly in their own arenas everyday. You are daring to try, to teach, to learn something new, to be healthy, to be great parents or great children or great aunts and uncles, to be the best version of who you are, to say something hard, to ask for what you want, to create a life you love. Here's to you!

09/22/2022

What types of courage are you displaying today? I’m working on all SIX! ❤️

07/20/2022

Back in 2000 during my first year in a new job, I was going through my first performance review. I wrote in my performance plan for the next year that I wanted to achieve "12 Celebrated Failures"--since my job was New Program Development, I figured I wouldn't be doing my best work without at least one failure a month. You can just imagine what came next! Alas...I was just ahead of my time! 😉

What does failure mean to you? What difference would it make in your life if you viewed failure more positively?

07/17/2022

We have but one life as the beautiful humans we are on this magnificent earth.....it's not about money in the bank, or perfect teeth, or the the circumference of your hips, or judgment. It's about love, and honor, and meaning, and delight, and friendship, and connection. Sending love and light to everyone today........YOU ARE ENOUGH.

07/13/2022

Truth…

06/27/2022

I’M A BIG FAN OF WOMEN

I’m a big fan of women with raucous laughs,
women who overshare awkward truths,
when the conversation stalls.

I’m a lover of singing loudly in the car whenever possible
and I love pulling alongside a fellow diva doing the same.

I’m a big fan of women who love women,
who spot lipstick on teeth and help each other out,
when Mother Nature calls.

I’m a huge believer in comparison being the thief of joy,
that dimming someone else’s light,
won’t ever make yours shine more brightly.

I just can’t get enough of those women,
who are unashamedly themselves,
in technicolour glory.

I’m a lover of laughter and those moments,
when the tears of joy start to flow, give me life.

I think the best therapy is quality time with a friend,
who listens without judgement.

I’m a big fan of women who break, who share,
who rebuild each other and cheer along the way.

I’m grateful for this world half-full of fabulous females,
I see you all,
each and every one.

From ‘The Right Words’ by Donna Ashworth: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B095MZ3XFP/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_6QX0Y2EW59QD6JXJ635M
Art by Wyanne

08/16/2021

True.

https://hbr.org/2015/08/the-research-is-clear-long-hours-backfire-for-people-and-for-companies?utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=hbr&utm_source=facebook&tpcc=orgsocial_edit&fbclid=IwAR2hRi6SK6O6jHOYD4OBiKxmwXrVDrSjBLEfuXpNChj5ofz0NBJ9V6nK8pU

The high cost of overwork.

04/09/2021

What are your happiness triggers?

12/03/2020

Shine your light....We ALL need it.

08/09/2020

These comics are brilliant! I especially love #1, #4, #13, and #20. Which is your favorite?

Artist Hector Janse van Rensburg is making us happier and our lives more wholesome with his comics that feel like miniature hugs and feature a meowtivational cat.

07/17/2020

You control whether you pick it up...

07/09/2020

Why is this often so hard? Make it your intention for today...and every day after that...💕

06/30/2020

STOP. BREATHE. CHOOSE. ❤️

Stop scrolling for a minute.
Breathe in. Feel the air moving through your nose.
Exhale generously, imagine that you can see the air moving a few feet in front of you.
Repeat for one-five minutes.
Bring the intention of gentleness to your slow inhalation.
Extend well wishes to others on your slow exhalation.
Just focus on your breathing.

💜
mh

06/20/2020

"Remember, if you are learning about racism, instead of experiencing it, you are privileged."

Excellent, and quick, read. Read it, ok?

So You Think You’re Not Racist? You’re Probably Wrong.

06/04/2020

Just keep your foot on the gas....

Just keep your foot on the gas.

05/31/2020

It’s not enough to say we are not racist...we have to actively become ANTI-Racist. As white people, we have a responsibility to educate ourselves and to call out racism—our own and others. If you don’t know where to start, many of the resources Brené Brown cites below are good. AND I recommend reading and discussing with friends—both white and those of color—the book White Fragility. Also, Layla Saad’s podcast is great, especially the episode she did with Robin DiAngelo who wrote White Fragilty. Episode 11 from December. ❤️

From the dehumanizing language and policy of this administration, to the history of white women using the performative “quiver of fear” when calling the police on black men, to police brutality, the system is working exactly how it was designed.

The system is not broken. This is the expansive and intricate system of dehumanization that was constructed to support white supremacy and slavery. Like every genocide in recorded history, racism started with dehumanization.

The system is more complex now and supported by policy. One thing remains at the center: We, the white folks, are the conduit for the system. It was built to serve us. When we do nothing it surges through us. To end racism, we have to break the system. We have to see it and fight against it - we have to be anti-racist. There are many ways to break and rebuild. But here’s what I know for sure:

The most important anti-racism work I’ve done over the past 20 years and that I’m still doing (every single day) is taught and led by people with the lived experience of racial oppression - NOT white people. This includes my professors, writers, activists, bosses, and mentors. For me, it’s also about seeing, sharing, and honoring the lived experiences of my friends whose realities are/were clearly different than mine.

Our job is to seek out the teaching, value it, submit to the pain of learning without asking our teachers to absolve us or add our emotions to their load, and know that being held accountable is hard and painful. And we have to act.

There are many teachers who are leading the way. Here are some teachers that I follow and who are doing critical work right now.

Austin Channing Brown (the The Next Question)

Dr. Bernice King (on MSNBC today at 1:45EST and has an important series on FB)

Dr. Clint Smith (June 3 event)

Prof. Ibram Kendi (on Unlocking Us this week)

Rachel Cargle (Public address on revolution available now)

If you know of other teachers - please leave them in the comments and we'll put together a list.

Amplify their voices and their work. Buy their books. Take their classes. Break the system.