12/06/2021
Bonnymeed Farm's business collaboration with Butler's Farem Market that ended almost exactly one year ago this month with the loss of a lease, resulted in some gratifying and enduring relationships. The firm handshake forming a partnership between two seperate enterprises offered, for us, a glimpse into a somewhat insular world - that of the Mennonites.
The Mennonites formed in the Netherlands in the early 16th century as part of the European Protestant Reformation. named for their founder Menno Simons. The Mennonites live in our greater society without forming seperate groups (unlike the Amish) but their belief in simple expression of their faith does create a hint of enigma. The Mennonites do not eschew all technology, but they dress simply, and their daily lives are without ornamentation or fancy ceremony.
We recently attended the marriage of Bernice and Lardell, two young Mennonites with whom we became acquainted in 2020. We were pleased to be included, for although Mennonites do not isolate themselves their manner of dress and behaviour has that practical effect. We wondered how many other outsiders would be in attendance.
The wedding was quite unlike any other we have ever attended. Not a flower or bright bouquet in display, no piano playing or trumpeteering, no tables draped with linen cloth, no centerpieces, no ribbons on a wedding arbor, no bridesmaids or best men in attendance. Everyone was dressed similarly, the men and boys wearing black dress coats without collars, white shirts without ties, black slacks and shoes. The women all wore long, pastel dresses with sleeves of various lengths, and white caps covering long hair gathered into buns. Young girls wore their hair in braids. The bride and groom dressed like everyone else. There were about 220 souls seated on plain metal folding chairs in the basement room of a Mennonite school, lined up to allow passage down the center. And to answer the above question, only three 'outsiders' (that includes us) participated.
The ceremony and events preceeding were quite moving. One does not have to ascibe to Mennonite thinking to appreciate the utter simplicity of the liturgy. But the singing! After we opened our hymnals, we were STUNNED to hear such voice raised on high! We looked around, and at each other, wondering from where and how did such a chorus emanate? It is not hyperbole to comment that the singing was better than anything which might have been professioinally recorded.
After Bernice and Lardell pledged their lives to one another (without an exchange of rings; Mennonites wear no jewelry of any sort, not even wedding rings) they moved to the back of the room to receive their guests. Row by row folk lined up to offer congratulations or perhaps a word of advice, singing with amazing voice the whole while before making their way back to their seats.
Once everyone was again seated, out from a side door appeared several girls carrying cafeteria trays of food which they handed to guests in the front row. The trays kept coming and more girls appeared as they progressed down the center aisle, like an uncoiling human bucket brigade, until eventually a dozen or more girls were passing trays from one another to folk in the last row. The simple fare was hot and delicious, served on plastic plates with disposable cups and utensiles. We devoured every morsel: meat balls with mac n' cheese, fruit cup, broccoli salad, ice cream parfait. No alcohol was served, only water.
Entertainment was conversation among the guests. No dancing or toasting or picture-taking. Not one cellphone made an appearance, which is why no photos accompany this post. The celebratory gifts were arranged in an adjoining room for inspection, nothing wrapped, with larger items leaned up against a wall: wheelbarrow, ladder, porch swing, ironing board. Someone made the amusing observation that the women especially enjoyed examining the wedding gifts and indeed, a long line of women with relunctant husbands in tow wrapped around the gift table and out the door. We suspect the husbands weren't really that relunctant.
We hope to continue knowing Bernice and Lardell for a long time. We know at least we'll run into them from time to time in our community of business, like we have this past year with our other Mennonite acquaintances. For no particular reason we feel honored to be acknowleded, included, and welcomed, by this interesting and distinctive cohort.