15/12/2019
I recently responded to a post and I thought it was worth sharing here as well... 
It had pertained to punishment on crimes of our younger generation and how to handle them and I feel like I truly don’t know how I’d handle them now, or a a point when it’s seemingly too late the damage is already done... but to our up-and-coming generation, if we strive in creating good human beings we shouldn’t ever have to get to that point. And I believe it all starts at home. 
 I am a mom of five boys my youngest is 9 and my oldest is 23 so I have a tremendous swing between how “discipline” was 15-20 years ago and how it is today. I can say that I have never Faltered in “my way” of disciplining my boys. the same way I discipline my now 23 year old- 20 years ago is the same way I discipline my nine-year-old today I have never spanked my children, I have never used threats with intent to hurt them to make them fear me in order to get them to listen. I never whipped out a wooden spoon or a paddle either, However I did threaten soap in your mouth and as my 23-year-old can tell you he had had soap in his mouth a time or two, and when they reach for the outlet to put a little fingers in a socket I was right there to tap their hands and said no firmly.... or when they saw something on TV I corrected the behavior to say that wasn’t kind or that wasn’t nice and explain the reasons why and as explained I attempted to put it into terms that they understood with how would you feel if that was done to you? we treat people the way we want to be treated not necessarily the way they treat us and that may very well be wrong in the minds of some people however I could surely tell you that it has thus far worked for me. Don’t get me wrong, they repeated these efforts several times and I repeatedly tapped their hands firmly to say no!! Or corrected when necessary. I always believed that sitting your children down and speaking to them in a way that they understand that’s clear and concise and that you get your message across with how firm you are in the morals that you want them to abide by the values for such things as respecting your elders as well as your peers and I held steadfast to all of my morals values and beliefs and tried ever so hard not to give in to the time outs because it’s how I wanted my children to be raised. We talk daily, openly, we have family dinner... together!! I assisted them in viewing the world with an open heart but to be cautious and I helped to mold them to the unbelievable human beings that they are today. My efforts were constant and I stayed steadfast it’s not easy. It’s repetitive and redundant - each and every day was exhausting! however it’s much easier to be a bad parent than it is to be a good parent, it’s much easier to let them do whatever it is that they want without you having to repeatedly and annoyingly tell them over and over and over but the proof is in the outcome. Being a parent at times can be the most difficult and unrewarding thing you’ll ever have to do and as a parent you’ll never know truly who your children have become until they go out into the world and you get the feedback from others..that’s the true test. So as to whether or not punishment on crimes now that have been committed should be more severe I throw my hands up I don’t know But I do know that discipline starts at the dinner table and it’s relentless until they go out on their own… and hopefully you’ve done the job that you needed to do in order to create the best human beings possible to all my new parents out there who are my friends and family I wish you good luck lol 🤷🏻♀️ Sorry for the rant lol 😘😘
