18/12/2024
Another year, another birthday we celebrate without you…
Grief has a funny way of ebbing and flowing. Time might create space, but it never lessens the weight when it hits. It still hurts just as much as the day we lost you. The difference is, over the years, we’ve gotten better at holding space for it.
What’s even stranger is seeing how much I’ve changed since you’ve been gone: the gray hairs, laugh lines, wrinkles, the shifts in my body… and yet, you remain frozen in time. You don’t age.
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I used to share so much about my brother when he first passed. But if I’m being honest, it’s gotten harder over time. There are only so many photos and videos to choose from—and there will never be a new one. No new memories, no updated moments to add.
And I can’t help but wish we had more.
This season, I urge you to take the damn photo or video. Give your loved ones as many ways as possible to remember you when you’re gone.
Here’s what won’t matter to them: how much you weighed, what you were wearing, whether your hair was perfect, that you looked tired, or any of the other excuses we all make.
What will matter is YOU. Just you. That’s what they’ll care about most.
If you’re grieving or missing someone this time of year, I’m sending you so much love and the biggest squeeze. I know this season can be heavy, filled with mixed emotions.
And remember, there’s space for both joy and grief ❤️