Mark Glowrey Clinical Family Therapist

22/07/2024

Appointments available for individuals, couples or families in August!
Call 51736830 to book

16/07/2024

07/12/2023

I struggled my way through secondary school. Spent my early adult years figuring things out stacking shelves, pouring pots (both taught me a great deal about life) prior to heading back to uni. I am mid way through my second masters. Year 12 results do not define the entirety of someone’s future. We all take different paths, be patient and always seek as much help along that path as you can get.

After failing year 10, Justin Giddings failed TAFE – twice. By 35, he was the chief executive of Avalon Airport.

02/12/2023

Getting in the Christmas Spirit down at the Traralgon Therapy Hub

26/11/2023

Attachment is complex and our innate desire to feel accepted by primary figures in our lives can be confusing and can really keep us stuck. Engaging in therapy can really help with this, there are some really great therapist in the Gippsland Region who can help with this. Feeling like a relationship is causing you hurt, worry or stress, try therapy!

06/10/2023

On the fence at all, please take 3 minutes to watch . Stand for nothing and fall for everything

Far Enough?Remember when you wanted to find the best coffee within walking distance of where you’re at and you googled it? You can apply the same tactic to s...

04/09/2023

Beautiful brand new piece of artwork hanging in the office painted by the talented May Glowrey!

16/05/2023

Dr Stan killing it here with some great advice!

When you are trying to resolve a dispute between you and your partner, ask yourself this:

Is your position good not only for you but for your partner as well?

Can you convincingly argue why it’s good for both of you? You’ll only get what you want by knowing and demonstrating for your partner that you know and understand what they want. Remember, you’re a two-person system. If either of you loses, you both do.

02/04/2023

Brand new location at level 1, 66 Church Street Traralgon. Sharing the space with some wonderful services.

25/11/2022

Hello, just letting everyone know that my emails and website are both down and have been so for the past 2.5 days. I am very sorry for those having problems reaching me. I am still open for business and happy to respond via text message on 0432544281.

Thank you

28/09/2022

Sharing positive needs is an important step in ensuring that you and your partner can feel more connected, loved, and supported. After you've discussed concerns or regrettable incidents, expressing a positive need helps reinforce your connection.

26/09/2022

Had to share this one that was up on the brilliant Chelle Taylor’s page. A very important reminder to all those parents out there in the trenches. A little imperfection is in fact perfectly healthy!

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22/09/2022

Incredibly important to understand the impacts on development in utero. This very short video provides a brief example of how a mothers experiences whilst carrying a child becomes a part of the child’s future.

In How Trauma Can Impact a Child in Utero, Allan Schore, PhD, shares how a parent's trauma can be transferred to their baby in utero.Allan is one of the lea...

18/09/2022

We are excited to announce that we are now accepting applications for our internationally recognised Graduate Certificate in Family Therapy: First Nations course.

Please see the attached flyer for more information, including our upcoming Information Sessions!

11/09/2022

“Notice what your partner is doing right. Catch your partner in the act of doing good stuff!” - Dr. John Gottman.

05/09/2022

Continuing an argument for a long time will make it challenging to reach an agreement. The longer you are under stress, the fewer mental resources you will have to spare, and the more difficult it will be to stay emotionally regulated.

So set a time limit the next time you argue. 15 minutes is the absolute longest I would recommend, but you can (and may want to) shorten that limit.

If you haven’t resolved the issue during that period, repair hurt feelings and make sure you are both ok for the time being. Agree to return to the discussion when you are both better regulated.

30/08/2022

Being bad at communicating is a part of the human condition. We *all* make errors in perception. We can only ever approximate another person’s mind. We can’t ever fully understand what’s going on with them.

Don’t assume understanding, especially when you are talking about a sensitive topic. Put in the extra effort to be sure you and your partner are on the same page.

20/05/2022

Something very different from me. Hope, belief and having dreams are so important for young people (and us oldies). Be careful with how you care for the kids around you and their dreams. Not all young people can overcome feedback that they will never be good enough to reach their goals. Support them, work with them and even if they don’t reach their end goal, they can walk away feeling as though they were invested in, believed in and loved.

21/02/2022

The emotional significance of an event will affect how detailed the memory of that event will be. If you did something that you believed was inconsequential, you might not remember it at all, but if it was painful to your partner, they will.

Will either of your memories be perfect? No, but that doesn’t matter. What matters is the pain your partner is experiencing.

Let go of the need to be right and focus on repairing the issue in the current moment.

18/02/2022

Generosity is the beginning

In relationships generosity creates openings. It is so important to the process of repair.

Generosity is so hard because we naturally want to protect ourselves when we are triggered. It takes generosity to open up the pathways for repair.

It also is so important to be generous on a daily basis with our partner to maintain our connections. Try and be generous in your relationships over the weekend and notice the differences it brings about.

08/01/2022

Relationships are blue collar, you have got to put in the work. Don’t sit back and hope that things will get better. Start talking, dreaming and connecting with each other again.

Every strong relationship is the result of a never-ending conversation between partners.

Think back to the early stages of your relationship. You probably asked your loved one countless questions to better understand their past, their future goals, and what makes them tick.

Perhaps you felt butterflies as you answered their questions about your own life. As your curiosity fired on all cylinders, you may have felt a thrilling excitement, and you imagined building a life together.

Why not continue this journey of discovery as you both grow? On the Gottman Relationship Blog, Genesis Games, LMHC offers five tips to nurture your connection: https://bit.ly/3JJfIuq

06/01/2022

We predominantly lay the templates for healthy relationships within our own family and the experiences we share with them. If you are worried about what’s happening at home, check in with a family service, family therapist, psychologist or social worker. Change occurs when we do something differently rather than continuing to try to manage on our own. Creating a happier healthy home now is the best investment you can make for your little people and their future!

Harvard started a longitudinal study in 1938 to determine what contributes to a happy and healthy life.

What’s the surprising factor that they found that has a critical impact on longevity?

💞 Secure relationships 💞

The study found that the level of satisfaction with relationships in midlife proved more important than genetics for longevity.

When you invest in making your relationships secure, you are not only improving your time together now but you’re also improving your health and wellbeing in the long run.

13/11/2021

Try this tonight: Put each other to bed. Let quality time with your partner be the very last thing you do before going to sleep – no phones, no TV.

Avoid stressful topics like politics, catastrophic events, or even family/household management. Instead, you can physically embrace, gaze into each other’s eyes, or read to each other.

This exercise is one of the simplest things you can do together to improve your relationship. Moments of transition such as going to bed or waking up can be powerful times to connect and bolster feelings of security as a couple.

22/10/2021

Dr Tatkin speaking the truth

Humans by nature are unreliable, aggressive, always aware of what is missing, always comparing and contrasting, fickle, moody, and easily influenceable by the groups they belong to.

So how do you prevent these traits from negatively impacting your relationship?

Come up with shared principles to govern your relationship that you both believe strongly in. These principles should define what you do and don’t do as a couple. They will act as guardrails for when times get difficult and you least feel like behaving collaboratively.

Some examples include:

💞 If one of us is in distress, we drop what we’re doing to care for that partner.
💞 We are completely transparent with each other
💞 We do NOT throw each other under the bus in front of others
💞 We have each other’s back at all times

15/09/2021

Every time I discuss these stats with people who have not worked with victims or experienced abuse themselves they are jolted by them. This is something we have to change as communities.

08/09/2021

Stan is spot on here! It isn’t easy to follow these steps and just in case my wife takes a look at this post I need to acknowledge that whilst I am a family therapist, it doesn’t mean that I myself don’t need guidance in the art of apologising and repair. Just slow things down and try to follow these steps, if you can nail at least 70% of Stans advice here you will be well on your way to repairing with your partner or loved one.

How to apologize to your partner "An apology in and of itself isn’t enough to relieve your partner when you’ve hurt them. In fact, there are plenty of “apologies” that wind up escalating the problem because they are really only justifications or brush-offs.

Here’s how to apologize in a way that will put your partner at ease:

1. Eliminate all distractions so you can be fully present with your partner. Make sure you can make eye contact with them.

2. Actively listen. Give them the space to explain what exactly hurt them and then reflect on what you heard back to them. Ensure that you fully understand. If you get it wrong, have them explain it to you again.

3. Rapidly repair the issue. The longer the issue is unresolved, the more likely it will enter into long-term memory, which can create an ongoing issue for the two of you.

4. Get specific about why you are apologizing. Don’t just say, “I’m sorry.” Say, “I’m sorry for ___.”

5. Take complete ownership of your mistake. Don’t lay the blame on them by saying something along the lines of, “I’m sorry you felt that way.”

6. Leave out your intentions. Explaining your intentions is just another way of justifying your actions. It doesn’t matter why you did what you did. All that matters is how your actions impacted your partner. "

21/07/2021

Which conversations will help you reignite the connection and passion that first brought you together?

On Small Things Often, we’ll guide you through 8 conversations to have with your partner for a lifetime of love. Listen today: http://bit.ly/SmallThingsOften

15/07/2021

It’s so important to work together to understand each other’s triggers or sensitivities. We don’t always know within our selves what those are. Accessing some therapy, sometimes even just a little, will help to identify with what it is that is distressing/upsetting you within that relationship.

08/07/2021

Being a burden is not a problem. We are all burdens to our partners. We’re all needy, difficult, and annoying at times. In a secure-functioning relationship, you take your partner as your burden with open arms.

The only thing that becomes a problem is if there is unfairness. You can be as big of a burden as you want as long as your partner can as well. This needs to be a union of equals. Asymmetric relationships accrue resentment, feelings of threat, and negative long-term memories.

08/07/2021

Beautiful new office at Mind Matters- 10 Kay Street Traralgon. Sharing a space with some talented professionals and in some of the nicest facilities I have worked within. I will be working out of this space moving forward. After hours appointments remain available upon request, please do not hesitate to enquire on 0432544281 or [email protected]