02/05/2024
If you have ever found yourself in a situation where youâre unsure of how to interact with a person with a disability, remember thisâhuman first!
People with disabilities are, first and foremost, people just like you. They have hobbies, dreams, frustrations, and goals. So here are some disability etiquette doâs and donâts:
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Do: Ask questions! Ask them questions about themselves that you would expect someone to ask you. Get to know them as a person. When it comes to asking questions about someoneâs disability, remember the context. Is this information necessary to ask for the benefit or safety of them? Will this invade their privacy? Are they open to sharing this information? Before you ask the question, ask if it is okay to ask a question.
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Do: Communicate with a disabled person just like you would communicate with anyone else. Talk directly to them, and engage with them. It is common for people to encounter a pair of people, and talk to the person accompanying someone with a disability as if the person with the disability is not there or unable to communicate.
đ« Donât: Offer assistance before asking someone if they need it. It is instinctual for people to help others, and that is a beautiful thingâbut if you enter someoneâs personal space without asking if they need that assistance to begin with, it can feel unsettling for the person with a disability.
đ« Donât: Make assumptions. Just because someone does not have a visible disability, does not mean that they donât have one. Many disabilities are invisible. On the flip side, donât make assumptions based on what you see in front of you when viewing someone with a visible disability. You donât that person's needs, strengths, or preferences.
If you would like to learn more about how you can be an ally to the disability community, we highly recommend the book âDemystifying Disabilityâ by Emily Ladau.