18/03/2022
Mid-Month Moment - March 2022
Ongoing change in our world continue to packs a wallop at every level as we attempt to adjust to the rapid pace of change at every level. Doors are opening into uncharted territory for many of us.
Are we resisting, afraid of the unknown and operating from a place of risk-avoidance, or are we joyfully stepping into each moment of the new adventure?
More than ever before, it is important to embrace everything that shows up in our lives as coming from the loving hand of a compassionate Creator. That stance alone can shift us from fear to faith, and from judgement to curiosity.
When new pathways call us forward off the old, it is for our growth and learning. Embracing that process of emergence drives the very core of our soul evolution. Even when we do not know specifically what the unknown brings, we can rest assured that it offers opportunities for learning and growth.
Responding effectively to change requires that we make a choice. Can we dig deep enough within to embrace change instead of waiting for it to be forced on us? We always have choice; yet when we avoid, resist or postpone necessary change, we may find ourselves unmoored, propelled forward out of control.
Resistance is futile because it perpetuates the very energy of what we resist. Why not allow ourselves to lean into the process of change instead and enjoy the ride?
By leaning into change, we start shifting in consciousness as we expand our awareness. Before we know it, the effects of change ripple through our lives at multiple levels!
For all its joys, however, there is one aspect of change that can cause a lot of pain: People whom we’ve considered part of our support system may begin to fall away. We may feel abandoned or unsupported by them, when in reality it’s not a personal thing at all. The change we embrace in our own lives will bring about shifts in our consciousness, so others may no longer be in sync with us.
This is a bittersweet thing, because friends or family may feel uncomfortable around us, not fully grasping why. Others may judge it as bad because it riled up previously stable relationships. They may even choose to avoid us and step out of our inner circle.
Ironically, this painful experience takes place not because our love for others has changed. In fact, with every step forward in evolving consciousness, our potential for love and compassion expands, whereas the individual dramas of attachments and judgment become less important. The people in our lives may misjudge this process because our presence feels less personally available to them.
Instead of a win/lose equation, we can view this dynamic as a reordering of our relationships. While some people in our circle may leave to join others, we’ll find our journey enriched by others who are more harmonious with our evolving consciousness. These are the souls with whom we can enjoy mutual support and shared wisdom for further growth.
Rather than grieving for the ones who’ve come and gone, we can express gratitude for the journey they shared with us. We can accept that their purpose in our lives may be complete and release them to their path, even as we choose to stay true to ours.
Every form of change brims with opportunity. It challenges us to connect with truth at our core, so we can find the courage to expand our perception, deepen our capacity for feeling, and lean into the higher purpose guiding us. Change ultimately awakens in us the realization of limitless possibilities.
Resisting change is not only futile, it is painful. Resistance and fear go hand in hand, for we fear what we resist and resist what we fear. When we find ourselves resisting change, it may be helpful to take a step back and unpack it to discover why.
Am I clinging blindly to what no longer serves me because I’m afraid of the unknown? Am I really prepared to suffocate what I thought was mine because I’m holding on too tightly? Does resisting change let me settle for insignificance rather than standing in my power? What is it I’m really attached to: people, places and situations that no longer respect me or meet my needs? The illusion of perceived worth as long as I pleased them?
Unpacking our motivation from the inside out, can be very illuminating. It can reveal how, where and why we convinced ourselves of the perceived value of dysfunction and called it support. It may expose the false premise of valuing ourselves based on ideals and expectations of others, instead of living from our core truth. It could lay bare the ways in which we’d sabotaged and abandoned our individual journey to fit others’ expectations or because of doubting our inner wisdom.
Ultimately, we’ll start to recognize that the momentary criticism, compliments or support we receive from others are not a true barometer of our worth. We cannot blame others for their choices or for the choices we’ve made. Their truth is theirs, and ours is ours. We cannot expect others to dance to the music we play, nor can we march to the drumbeat of another.
In the end, reaching this insight sets us free. When we take complete self-responsibility for our lives and choices, we can fully accept and support ourselves. We become fully empowered, inner-directed beings instead of seeking outwardly for validation.
When change comes knocking, remember that it is an invitation to growth, not something to resist or fear. Embracing change allows us to embrace possibilities for empowerment, growth and more resonant ways of living.
You can choose peace by embracing change!
