24/09/2023
Birth story extra details, or pt 5/4, from my secondborn's birth in 2022: A few hours before labor started, dear friend Cherie spontaneously stopped by and sat with me for a while. This is someone who I've deeply resonated with since our first connection--something about us both being Asian & q***r, parents & birthworkers, and both growing up internationally, and something just about their spirit? Basically a visit from this beloved human was the best surprise. They brought me food, gentle understanding, and exactly the grounding presence I needed. Contractions had been coming and going all day, but I'd been hiding them from everyone, not wanting to hope labor was finally starting.
Cherie noticed immediately though (the smallest intake of breath, a slight shift in weight--iykyk). They told me that they weren't going to offer me their opinion on when this baby was coming, that all I had to do was stay steady and follow my body. They also offered me a small stone to hold in case I needed something solid to hold on to through labor, whenever it started.
A few hours later it truly felt like I couldn't get through contractions without holding that tiny rock in my fist. I turned down offers of massage or a shower or bath--all of that felt too soft for some reason--but something literally rock solid in my hand was the perfect anchor. In that dim haze of laborland it felt like the stone was offering some of Cherie's solid, supportive presence to me somehow.
Part of me is glad it won't fit onto my baby's (extremely amateur) scrapbook page so I can wait and offer it to the next birthing person who needs that lifting up at the right time.
Cherie, love, thank you for everything, as always 💙