16/10/2024
⚠️ Trigger warning - Pregnancy loss ⚠️
Yesterday was Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day, and honestly, I didn’t have the strength to post at the time. But I know how important it is to talk about how common pregnancy loss is, so I’m sharing my story now, in my own time.
Over the last couple years, I’ve experienced two missed miscarriages and one chemical pregnancy. After my third loss, I developed Asherman’s Syndrome and had to undergo a hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue. 😮💨 The pain of these experiences is something that stays with me, but so does the resilience I’ve built along the way.
As I read others’ stories yesterday (thank you to everyone who shared ❤️), I couldn’t help but think about how much miscarriage is still kept in the dark.
We’re told not to share our pregnancies before the 12-week mark, since those early weeks carry the highest risk of loss. But I’ve been asking myself—who is this “rule” really for? Is it to shield us from the heartbreak of discussing a loss, or to spare others from the discomfort of hearing about it? Because when we don’t talk about it, it can feel like pregnancy loss is something that happens in isolation, when in reality, it’s so much more common than we realize.
If this journey has taught me anything, it’s the strength I’ve found in myself, and the gratitude I have for the support around me—especially from Jules, Poppy, and our incredible family and friend who’ve carried me through the hardest moments. You know who you are 🫶
And I want to wish a happy birthday to our angel baby Poppy Goodgirl. 🎂 In a bittersweet coincidence, her birthday falls on the same day as one of our losses, but she truly is the best girl in the world. ❤️
