11/15/2015
She Said, He Said... Writing From the Male Perspective. “Bits and Pieces," A Behind the Scenes Writing Perspective from Award-Winning Author, C. L. Gillmore
Unaware of rules, guidelines, or methods when I first began writing, I simply followed my instincts and wrote from my head... my heart. I wove colorful strands of imaginative narrative, through the mottled, textured threads of true-life experience.
Right or wrong... each day I wrote more. I couldn’t NOT write.
I never thought much about writing from different points of view (POV), male and female. For me, the perspectives flowed easily as the characters emerged and the story line evolved. Ideas for both, characters and storyline, came from people and places I remembered... from me, from my past.
Before I began writing the companion novels, Uncommon Bond and A Friend Request, I’d already established a mental picture of the characters, Rose Allison and Jake Richardson. I pictured them in my mind... their physical appearance, how they dressed, their mannerisms, and sense of humor. I heard their voices inside my head, long before I wrote their dialogue. I knew their strengths and vulnerabilities, and the conflict within each of them.
Rose and Jake’s personas originated within a group of friends from Iowa City, Iowa, during the late 1960s—including members of a local rock band. Within a core group of eight young men and women... and a peripheral group of ten to fifteen more, I fashioned Rose Allison and Jake Richardson from bits and pieces of these friends.
I chose the name, Rose, from one of the peripheral girls, named Rose. I remembered her as pretty, soft-spoken, about 5’4” tall, with long, brownish blonde, sun-streaked hair. She dressed fashionably hippie and looked stunning in a two-piece bathing suit. Exactly how I pictured Rose Allison. Her humor, strengths, vulnerabilities, and conflict... mine.
I always liked the name, Jake. And I especially liked the connection of the two names, Jake and Rose. This character came from a combination of three friends... two from the Iowa City group, one from my hometown of Muscatine, Iowa. None were named Jake. But together, those three merged into the Jake Richardson I described in this excerpt from A Friend Request:
"He reached Cash’s height, about 5’7", with straight sandy-brown hair skimming his ears. He wore a tight black T-shirt accentuating his broad shoulders and muscular well-tanned arms. He tucked that tight T-shirt inside tight bell-bottom jeans with tapered orange, white and navy blue paisley inserts running up each side just below his knee. And sandals. Even in October, he still wore sandals on his golden-brown feet. He had a good build... and a really nice butt."
And later on in the story line:
"Tonight, I finally met the lighting and sound guy, Jake Richardson. I barely know him and yet I feel comfortable with him. He’s a farm boy... cute, witty, funny, and gentle... prone to answering questions with “yep” and “nope.” Yet, he’s smart, easy to talk to, and a good listener.
What is it about him? When I look into his eyes, I see something different. I can’t explain it. I just know something extraordinary happened tonight. It’s like a connection with someone I already knew. But that can’t be, can it? I just want him to hold me. I want to listen to his voice forever. When I look at his lips I want him to kiss me. He makes me ache inside. I can’t wait to see him again."
There’s an advantage to writing novels when you’re fifty or sixty. Along with a plethora of memories, comes the accumulation of experiences—good and bad—in diverse areas. I’m a generalist, knowing a little bit about a lot of things. But I've found over the years, those things all talk to each other behind my back.
I read somewhere girls look through 'rose-colored' glasses and boys through 'sky-blue' ones. A writer figures out a way to convey this. I remembered and kept in mind a few, key differences between the two s*xes when I wrote as Jake, from the male perspective.
Women talk more than men. Statistics say women say 20,000 words per day compared to men speaking only 7,000 per day. Having said that, just because a man is silent on the outside, doesn’t mean he’s silent inside. Men think what women say. I wrote Jake’s thoughts regarding a lot of things. And sometimes, from his silence, came the most incredible utterances. Words that endeared him to her... and any other female reading along.
Excerpt from A Friend Request:
“You look beautiful.” He brushed another kiss along the side of my cheek. “I knew you were special the first night I saw you at rehearsal... the first time I heard your voice.”
Dear Jesus, did all men use words the way he did? Lovely words I knew would stay in my heart... replay in my mind... forever?
Men are visual, much more sight driven, than most women. What they see sticks inside their brain and replays. When I wrote from Jake’s POV, I saw everything and was stimulated by what I saw... and still capable of thoughts and feelings and words spilling out at the same time.
Excerpt from A Friend Request:
We stood facing one another, holding hands like little children. I watched Jake’s eyes travel slowly up and down my body. I found myself doing the same. I couldn’t stop looking. His body was beautiful... muscular, lean, and tan.
“You’re so beautiful, so soft, Rose. You take my breath away.”
Men, as a general rule, are not detail-oriented. They tend to look at the big picture, the end game. She might have worn a short, designer gown in emerald green, but all he remembers... her long, s*xy legs under a very, short dress. Color? Doesn’t matter.
Excerpt from A Friend Request:
Damn. How could she still look the same after all the years? Pretty, petite, blonde... round in all the right places. Sweet, Jesus. She wore the black-knit dress with the buttons down the front. Were the pink, lacy bra and panties underneath? The thought alone excited me... made me hard. Great.
Men are more logically driven and can compartmentalize things much better than woman. They want to cut to the chase and solve the problem... and then not think or talk about it anymore. Men move on and usually don’t hold a grudge.
Excerpt from A Friend Request:
"Yep. Win or lose... give me the boys’ bus every time. I can deal with the swearing, boasting, bragging, and a few fists hitting the side of the bus, because I know they will soon follow it all up with silence. Guys get over things and move on. Guys are spent. They need sleep, and the rocking movement of the bus works like a charm every time... all the way home.
Guys. Simple. Predictable. Easily satisfied.
God, I was thankful to have sons. Every once in a while you get lucky. If Beth had given birth to girls, I’m sure I would have drowned in a raging sea of heated, hyper-active hormones by now. Yep, damn lucky."
And s*x? Well, it’s a touch-ey, feel-ey, see-ey thing... but can be totally non-emotional for a guy. Not connected with love at all. But if you write romance novels, your leading man has all of these in hearts—not spades—gets emotionally involved, and falls in love.
Excerpt from A Friend Request:
With Rose... I learned the difference between s*x and love. Up until then—having s*x, balling, fu***ng, screwing—were all interchangeable man terms for what most women referred to as making love. Simple semantics.
After that—having s*x, making love—I knew the difference. I felt the difference. I never forgot the difference.
A writer can use the differences in men and women to contrast different relationships between characters in a storyline. When I wrote from Jake’s POV, I illustrated how the same characteristics that endeared him to Rose... alienated him from his wife, Beth.
Excerpt from A Friend Request:
Beth stood, looked at me briefly, and delivered one last parting shot.
“It doesn’t matter. You’ll do whatever you want anyway. That’s how it’s always been. You’ve always done whatever you wanted, gotten whatever you wanted.”
She picked up her cup from the table and walked into the living room. A few seconds later, I heard the din of the television.
I refocused my attention out the kitchen window... toward the lake.
I’d made my choices long ago and I lived with them... every single day. Whatever burdens or sorrows I carried, I would, most likely, carry until all my days were used up.
Quietly, I responded to no one in particular, “You’re wrong. I never got anything I really wanted, except my sons.”
Finally, after factoring in all those point of view elements, I closed my eyes and imagined I’m the one hearing his romantic words, feeling the tender emotions from his gentle touch, and experiencing all those erotic acts of love he can dream up. That’s why we read romance novels. That’s why I write romance novels. I love romance. When I need a reality check, I’ll grab a copy of U. S. News and World Report.
Every writer must find what works for him or her... find their particular method or style of writing. Writing from my head and heart, weaving fact and fiction, and going with my instincts, worked for me. By using all of these, I learned to develop story lines, settings, and characters. I learned to write from both male and female point of view.
There is a secret to finding your method, your style of writing. It took me awhile of thinking and talking before I finally figured it out. It’s a sure thing, too. If you do this one thing, over and over, you’ll develop everything needed to become a great writer.
Sh-h-h-h-h. Do you want to know the secret?
WRITE.