05/06/2023
“When conditions change, the plan needs to be reassessed.”
What conditions? The status of the boat, the weather and the crew.
The plan was to sail Artemis to Maine, maybe via Nova Scotia.
I havent found suitable crew despite several conversations.
I dont have the same joy in overnight singlehanding and the big legs of the trip lay ahead of me. And I am tired of going it alone.
The spring weather has been notably less stable. The prevailing Southwesterly winds have not appeared. Lots of NE winds, which make heading NE difficult/impossible/unsafe.
And I have some things in Colorado I need to do end of the month and mid July. My priorities seem to have changed too. I have family members I need and want to give back to and be there for. And am OK with it.
I am not the person I was and have been for so long.
So, being unlikely to get Artemis to Maine, I changed my plans.
Today I am moving Artemis from Whittaker Pointe Marina to Pecan Grove Marina. Whittaker Pointe is nice, but is quite exposed and not a year-round option - and I am not sure when I will be returning.
Pecan Grove is a man made marina, dug deep into a field with berms all around it. It is a designated hurricane hole, and Artemis will be safe there and properly and thoroughly secured for an extended stay. I have a lease till the end of next June.
Because, to the best of my knowledge, I am starting a new job in July. I accepted an offer and references/background checks were successful (phew!). I will be working under my LPC (Licensed Professional Counselor), which I had reinstated after letting it lapse in 2017. I had suffered from pretty severe burnout at my last position. I feel ready to work again and want to.
The money will help, but I am wanting to work again. And the need is so great. And I didn’t “end well” last time, and ending well and without regrets matters to me. So does recovering the things I lost - like my professional license. Surprisingly, even after a long pause, lots of employers were wanting me. I did some soul searching and accepted an offer I feel enthusiastic about. And it is close to home, so I wont be struggling with an awful commute into or across Denver.
I thought about selling Artemis, but am not ready. I love my boat and love living on her, and dont have the kind of clarity I need for that big of a decision. And I have left her in Oriental before. It is one of my home-ports away from home. She has done better here in the water than in Hampstead on the hard. And this is a place I want to I return to.
I do need to think about how I will sail her and make passages as an “older sailor”. Probably I should get in better shape, too.
Even lifting the outboard has become difficult and unsafe. And overnights alone leave me pretty exhausted. I need to accept, adapt and adjust.
Because I am not done, am not ready to be done, and don’t want to be done.
I take some comfort in knowing I have sailed well alone for quite a while, but am still dealing with some disappointment and embarrassment about “giving up” and not being the “bad-ass offshore single hander” I once was -and relished being.
Some of that is about the difficulties of getting older.
Some of it is about ego and wanting to be special, and admired.
Some of it is about a change in self-concept and identity.
It helps me a little to remember what the Buddha said; “The problem isn’t identity; the problem is the attachment to it.” Sighhhhhhhh.