MommyMinutes

22/07/2024

My 14 year is home from 2 weeks away and he just stopped me mid stride in my living room as I was walking past him and pulled me in for a hug and said “I really missed you mom “🥲😍

I felt delight, surprise and wonder!

I felt like he took the masculine pole and directed me in that moment for connection and wow!
Wow!

I felt pride and love seeing this act of love and care from him.

So many moms struggle with their teenage boys because of the WAY we communicate with them.

Our boys do NOT want to submit or take orders from their moms once they are in puberty ladies and their masculine instincts are coming more fully online.

And yet most moms don’t know what the heck to DO!

We are so caught in our old ways of leading them and our masculine behavior and habits of giving them orders and running the house no longer land the way they used to.

💗Our boys feel irritation, frustration and DISTANCE from us and WE feel like we are failing as moms as our boys remove themselves from us and we wonder what we are doing wrong🥲

I have been there!

Learning Feminine communication changed EVERYTHING for me and my boy!

I taught a 2 hr masterclass on THIS TOPIC if you want to listen to it here is the link.

The second hour is all Q and A from moms who don’t want to lose their sons and we don’t have to ladies!

It can be so much easier and you can listen to this as many times as you need to.

It’s full of concrete tools and ways to connect with our sons that brings them closer and ends the power struggles

https://unfilteredfeminine.com/moms-of-boys

Love
B💗

Testimonial-

I changed the way I spoke to my 12 years old and It’s working! Our arguements and him not helping me has changed entirely, i had no idea how this would work for us. I feel so happy and I have hope again. He is friendly and smiling at me again💜Thank u Brooke!~mom of 2

14/07/2024

When I got a divorce he refused to come to my house for almost a year🙃🥹not only refused to come to my house but also refused to talk to me.

The conscious parenting coach who had her entire world flipped upside down- yes this was me.

Holy smokes I can write a book about moving THAT pain through my body.

His dad would not force him to come or set any boundaries with this and this is NOT about his dad… it was about the power struggle we were in and him suddenly refusing to be close to me, his pain was too big and it was ALL directed at me.

To say it was the most heart wrenching experience of my life is an understatement.

I knew I needed to shift things and continue to reach for him and TRUST… oh so much TRUST was required.

As I opened and softened and healed he began to respond entirely differently to me.

This week…

This young man is 14 and away at his first 2 weeks of wilderness survival camp.

Almost every night I receive “ goodnight, I love you” messages from him. 💗

For mothers he wrote me this card. Expressing his love and appreciation for me. I was stunned with his choice of words🥹🩷 and felt wow my heart busting with wonder.

A few months ago I asked if he remembered that time… he said he did and he had NO idea it went on for a full year. They don’t live in linear time🤷🏽‍♀️
Being 14 now he said “ wait…. a YEAR, are you sure?”

He was very surprised.

“Yep, I assure you it was- I counted the days” I replied.

He then looked me in the eye and apologized to me and said “ I’m sorry I did that mom. I was just really sad”🥹🥲

It’s the first and only time he spoke to me about his experience.

Our boys WANT to be close to us ladies and we can help them by learning to speak to them in new ways using Femining Communcation which allows their buddying masculine leadership to come more online.

The role of mother/ son needs to shift as they begin to individuate from us.

This is healthy and normal and we do not have to suddenly feel like we are losing our sons.

I feel pain in my heart watching moms and sons struggle and goodness we love them SO much all we want is to feel close to them always.

I felt like an absolute failure as a mother as you can imagine while trying to navigate divorce and all that came with it.

They WANT to be close to us but our language and the way we speak to our boys goes against their natural wiring as budding young men to energetically submit to US when we TELL them what to do.

No man wants to be told what to do and no boy does either once he is about 9/10 for sure.

I watch this dynamic every day at the pool, the climbing gym, the soccer field. Moms and sons struggling.

They feel instant irritation when we tell them what to do.

They MAY do it anyways but they do it begrudgingly and it doesn’t bring us closer together.

I taught a 2 hr workshop recently to a group of moms on HOW to shift these hard dynamics and bring harmony back to you and your son.

The first hr is packed with tools and insights and learning HOW to speak to them in a new way that not only has them hear us, it has them WANT to help us and cooperate 💗

The second hour is all live Q and A with me and the moms bring me all their scenarios and challenges and it’s juicy and vulnerable and filled with info that can help you.

You do not need to struggle alone💗

Here is the link if you desire to purchase this workshop and you can watch it as many times as you need to💗 it’s 50$ and will be delivered to your email instantly.

If you have extra questions after you watch I would feel joy for you to write them here and I’m happy to answer and help.

Ps- please feel free to share this with your community. We all need more support for this HUGE job we do.

https://unfilteredfeminine.com/moms-of-boys

Love
B💗

18/05/2024

Friends !!

The 2 hr masterclass offered by the polarity coaches I work with is happening TOMORROW/ SUNDAY 19th at 12 pm PT.

💗This Is The Ultimate Masterclass Experience For Men To learn to Lead A Woman Out Of Disrespect And Resistance, And For Women To Inspire A Man Out Of Apathy And Reactivity💗

If you want the link to register it’s in the comments 🔥it’s the last one they will offer.

This is for single people and married people.

This is where it all began for me… prepare to have your mind blown wide open watching and listening! They only do them once a month.

It’s so FUN and expansive and will lead to some massive ah ha moments… triggers and all💗

Our triggers are here FOR is friends.. showing us where we get to lean in and heal💜🎉🌈

Love B

14/05/2024

I just delivered one of the most impactful masterclasses for women over 40. Drop a THRIVE in comments for access to the replay.

10/05/2024

Learning polarity and ME softening shifted my entire relationship with my son…

Right around 10-12yrs of age is the “individuating stage” when they are supposed to pull away from us ladies and forge their own way in the world.

Their masculine instincts are coming online, they suddenly “know everything”🤣 and what happens is usually discord and power struggles… this was what was happening for us and I felt confusion about it and some despair as I feared I was losing my sweet boy before me and we were butting heads ALOT.

I learned how to use feminine communication with him and EVERYTHING shifted.

Yesterday was Day 27 of my cycle, and I had tech challenges happening and the tech world always makes me CRY😍🤷🏽‍♀️

As I got on the phone with my bank to get things sorted out, As soon as I started trying to explain to the man on the phone my problem I started crying. I literally could not talk. I croaked out “ oh I’m having a hard time here just a moment please” through my tears and my son who is 14 jumped up from the couch and came to kneel beside me and said “ do you need help mom?”

He started looking at my computer as I was trying to follow instructions from the man on the phone, wiping my eyes so I could SEE.. and as he kneeled beside me I felt my nervous system instantly regulate and I could think clearly again and follow some basic instructions and I did it!

I expressed my deep appreciate to the man on the phone and my tears would not stop.

My son got up and went to his room when I hung up and then I went in and knocked on his door

“May I share my feelings with you?

“Yes “ he nodded with a little smile

“I gosh I just feel so much care and ( more tears, me gasping for air a little even) wow Ocean, I immediately felt like I could do it with you just sitting beside me. I was able to think clearly and you saw that I needed help and just came over without asking me and I just want you to know how deeply impacted and moved I feel from this, thank you so much for seeing what I needed and helping me”

Yea I went on a little long 🤣🤷🏽‍♀️ but my heart was bursting and all I could think of were his future female friends and mates as he matures and how he will offer them this same care and help.

I just feel so much joy for what I am withnessing and experiencing with my teenager. I am never alone now as I know to ask for help always… and in the moments I might forget… I trust that the men - young and old around me notice and sweep in to provide for me.

I am so filled with gratitude for my softening…and what it’s provided for me and my son.

He helps me endlessly now and makes decisions for us and I get to stay in my feminine radiance and flow with him and I ask him for help every day and receive it!

I taught a 2 hr class for moms of teenage boys and if you want to learn this for yourself here is the link below to get it delivered into your email. Watch it multiple times even!

Life can be SO much easier with our boys.

💗Here is a tip for you ladies: when we “tell them what to DO” they will always resist taking our instruction as their masculine instincts will rebel against our instructions - this is their basic fundamental needs coming online as a young man! Learning to do this in a new way inspires them to help us always and it’s so much easier!

https://tinyurl.com/fcformoms

15/04/2024

Ladies…I was struggling with my 13 yr old son until I learned to shift the way I was communicating with him💗

I could not understand what was happening… suddenly my sweet boy was NOT willing to cooperate and I felt confusion and sadness about how he was speaking to me😳

I felt hopelessness, despair, irritation and deep frustration…. I felt him slipping away, and I felt I was failing as a mom…

What I came to realize is that our
Boys need something really different from their moms as they begin to reach puberty and follow their natural masculine instincts that are coming online. All the testosterone pumping thru them… yep… they need US in a different way.

As I made these changes within myself suddenly he wanted to help me ALL the time!

He would hear my feelings and provide me solutions and change HIS behavior and habits without me asking him to, without me nagging and the power struggles vanished💗🙏🏽

I felt like doing cartwheels and I felt joy to see what I was noticing! Wow! Could it BE that he was in fact responding to ME?

The answer was YES!

So I learned how to shift myself and ask for help in an entirely new way using feminine communication and he began to respond in an entirely different way 💗💃🏻

I taught a 2 hr class on this recently and If you missed it -It’s here for you to watch as many times as you desire to!

You can click on the link below.

It’s 45$ and the second half is full of live Q and A’s from the moms on the call- SO many nuggets are shared in here to bring more :

Peace, FUN, connection, understanding and HELP to you and your boy.

We do not have to lose our boys sisters … we can instead turn this around and have an ally helping us every day!💗I feel joy and pride watching him step more and more into the natural leader he was born to be.

https://tinyurl.com/fcformoms

Testimonial from a mom: Wowwowow! Brooke! I just watched the replay and wow sister, the wisdom and knowledge you dropped in there was absolute gold for me. I feel so much joy knowing I can turn this around with my son who is 13. I appreciate you so so much and I would love to send more moms your way for another class.

If you desire some help in this area, Just click on the blue link above and it will take you to the page and the recording will arrive right into your email🦋

We do not have to struggle and we do NOT have to figure this out on our own.

Love B
💗

04/04/2024

I did some raging with my soul sisters.

I had a big ole tantrum and I MOVED the feelings of pain and saddness THROUGH my body while I did it.

I have been practicing releasing my rage for many many years now.

We must learn how to do this emotional scrubbing so that we can be free to have the lives that we are so worthy of.

The feelings do NOT go anywhere until we MOVE them out.

 So we can choose to try and stuff them, avoid them, pretend they’re not there, we can try and philosophize ourself out of them, pray our way out of them, but in my experience, I have found the most powerful and profound way to move things out, fully is to feel them.

Capital - FEEL - them.

I will not collapse my body from pain and grief.

Instead I will ride the waves and KNOW that healing is happening with every moment I cry, rage and storm.

Under all anger and pain is saddness.

FEELING it FULLY is the answer.

It’s just like childbirth sisters… we have to go THROUGH it.

There is no by passing it.

Grief is one of the most misunderstood experiences that EVEYONE will go through.

And the sooner I FEEL it the sooner it is released from my body.

We can ALL HEAL.

You do not have to carry pain around for the rest of your life.

Love
B💗

Ps- there is a rage/ grief video in my women’s group where I show you in real time exactly HOW to do this if you wanna come watch join us in UNFILTERED ~ a Group where women get to open, soften and heal~

01/03/2024

Last week when we were in the mountains, I watched with joy as these girls played out in the snow for hours.

I watched from the comfort of the cabin, sipping on a mug of tea.

⛄️They stacked up snowballs.

❄️They stepped into the fresh snow as they fell through to their knees.

🥾They stomped to pack the snow to create a sure footing in the areas around the fort they were building.

👼One laid down in the snow and paused, splayed out.

👩‍🍳One went over to the side of the cabin, came back with a metal spatula.

🏃‍♀️She ran half way back to the fort, decided she ran far enough, stopped and started digging.

It was pure play.

When I finally went outside to meet them, they told me “We caught one polar bear, 3 walruses, and 5 fish!”

They went on to show me their fort and the stories of what it took to build it, where they enter, cook, sleep, and defend from attacks.

They were fully immersed in the world of imagination and absolutely committed to their story.

I could tell that they saw their surroundings completely differently than me.

Where I saw a 1 foot wall under a shrubbery tree in the backyard of a cabin, they saw a giant fort full of a bustling village, a neighboring tribe, and a vast tundra.

As adults, how often do we do that?

How often do we choose to see the awe and wonder at our surroundings?

How often do we choose to explore the mundane like it’s an adventure?

Our life is a story being written through us.

What is your story?

26/02/2024

21/02/2024

Have you noticed that most of the time, our boys feel INSTANT irritation when we (moms) tell them what to do? 😍

And then WE feel frustration when they don’t listen to us and do what we are asking of them…

Does this sound familiar?

The reason our teenagers, preteens and budding young men feel this irritation is it goes against their natural instincts as boys … on their way to becoming men to be told what to DO.

Especially by their moms, the feminine … so what most of us do is we try and get more alpha than them, we get louder, or we lecture them.

Or we try an explain it ALL so they GET us… if we just told them EVERYTHING we think it will shift them, or we give up😞we don’t know what else to DO.

When we get our feelings hurt we often withdraw our affection and throw up our hands up.

Or… I see this a lot and my hearts hurts when I do… we tolerate being treated poorly by our boys as we think the only other option is fighting with them and we don’t desire THAT either..

Does any of this feel familiar to you?

I desire for you to know there is another way!!!

Enter… Feminine communication … the gift that keeps on giving!💗

Learning how to speak to our boys in a way that has them WANT to help, has them lean in further to solve the problems that are on our hearts and provide the solutions we desperately need…

YES THIS is what happens when we learn how to use feminine communication and when we learn how to clean up OUR energy so our boys can be who they naturally ARE… leaders.

I feel JOY to be sharing how this can work next Tuesday 12-2 pm PST in my workshop for Moms of boys!

So many of you have been asking for this and it’s happening!

It will be recorded so you can watch the replay if you register.

What I know is there is a way to create deep connection with our boys, understanding how they are wired and how to speak in a Way that puts an end to power struggles and frustration.

It works!!

And life gets to be FUN and full of SUPPORT from our amazing boys..

The TRUTH is they absolutely DO care how their moms feel… we get to shift things so they can feel us in a new way that brings an entirely new dynamic into your family!

You can register via PayPal or Venmo- then a link will be sent to you for the live zoom with me💗

I made it affordable so everyone who wants to be there can join me!

2hrs 45$ and a replay to listen as much as you desire.

90 mins of info and 30 mins of Q and A with me and REAL time examples of how to bring more harmony and connection and solutions into your home.

I love watching moms and sons transform power struggles.

It can be so much easier sisters!!

Registration details in the comments 💃🏻💗

18/02/2024

🔥Workshop for moms of boys is HAPPENING!!!!🔥

💗Date- Tues Feb 27th
💗Time- 12-2pm PST- 90 mins content- 30 mins Q and A
💗Investment - 45$

I’ve had over 50 women reach out to me asking me to offer this from my UNFILTERED ~ a Group where women get to open, soften and heal~ group and I decided to also share HERE with you so you can tune in if you feel the call to have more ease with your boys…

This workshop is for moms who desire more harmony with their boys ages 7-20 yrs old and is a deep dive into understanding how WE can shift the power struggles and build a deeper connection with our budding young men by learning a new language and way of BEING with them… Feminine communication is a game changer for our boys and for US!

So many of you have been asking for this and I feel so much joy to bring this to you ladies.

The replay will be available if you can’t be live with me for the full 2 hrs and you can watch it on replay as much as you need.

In this workshop… Uncover for yourself:

💗why your boy doesn’t listen to you the way you want him to

💗how to stop mothering him and help him step more into his leadership skills, creating more balance for you and less worry.

💗how to put an END to the frustration and power struggles that feel awful to you BOTH

💗learn how to stop nagging and needing to remind him of everything

💗put an end to arguing in your home.

💗 learn how to ask for his help in a way that inspires him to provide for you( yes he is WIRED for this)

💗 learn how using feminine communication feels so much better to you and to him and actually will help provide the shifts you desire to be feeling and experiencing

💗learn how feminine communication will bring deeper connection and a whole lot more FUN into your life as you learn how to release the endless worry and frustration that can seep into our relationships because we don’t UNDERSTAND HOW to communicate with our boys In a way that inspires them to HELP us.

💗learn how boundaries, setting limits or giving punishments are in fact NOT NECESSARY any longer when we use feminine communication.

Can u imagine??💃🏻💃🏻🔥

My life got SO much easier as I began to apply this new language and way of being with my son… yes my daughter too… (yes they also respond to feminine communication) but this workshop is specifically for moms of BOYS.

Join me for this!!

I desire for this to be EASY -so you have 2 ways to register for this workshop

1) if u are outside the USA- PayPal 45$ US to [email protected] - click friends and family so no “fees” are taken out.

2) if you are IN US- send 45$ via Venmo photo is below in the comments.

Once payment is received you will receive the zoom link for this workshop from Mika Lotuss Sogawa who is assisting me with this workshop!

Who is ready for more ease with their boys??

18/01/2024

What would your life FEEL like if you never had to worry about working and money ever again? 😍

Have you ever allowed yourself to dream about this?

What would it feel like in your bones to know you are fully taken care of, no more stress, no more worry, no more rushing around, able to say YES to whatever your heart desires…. Can you breath in that reality for a moment?

💜Did you know you ARE WORTHY of this experience?💜

Do you know that you don’t have to DO anything to be worthy of this experience?

You just ARE WORTHY by being here in this body and this life!

Did you know creating this is 100% possible?

Next week there is a 30 day mentorship with me starting for those who are already entrepreneurs and are launching their online business with me and a group of leaders here!

Not only that, but I feel delight that I announced yesterday that I am extending my mentorship to 90 days for the ones who are ready to earn 6 plus figures quickly.
In 90 days this group of heart centered souls will have all the knowledge needed in order to build this to a life with more freedom and I’m going to be holding their hands and helping them every step of the way along with a couple other remarkable freedompreners I’ve locked arms with.

I LOVE reaching my hand out to help those who are ready to help themselves.

17 have said yes so far and there is one week left!! 2024 is gonna be even more FUN than I imagined!

The woman who is one of my main mentors Kristie X Ord is a mom of 3 and after 2 years here is financially free- she never has to work again unless she wants to. She will be a special guest to learn from in real time.

Kyliee X. Stevenson is 28 and about to hit generational legacy income here too , she and I are locking arms to bring what we know to those entrepreneurs who are REALLY ready for life to be easier.

We are offering this mentorship because of the vision we share to help others create the success online that we have.

There is no extra fee for this and this level of support is easily valued at 10k for a mentorship over 90 days 💃💃

We have the business model, the mentorship, the support, the automation, a company that is celebrating its 50th year this year and a proven track record🙌

Thousands of people doing this from all over the world with their phones and laptops in the pockets of their time in the ways that work for them!

🔥THIS mentorship is specifically for ENTREPRENEURS, those already who are forging their own path and are ready for it to be easier, done wearing all the hats and the burn out 🔥

I feel so much JOY at being able to have upper level conversations right out of the gate with this group!!

Our business when UP by 22% in the last 2 years…while so much struggle exists in the business world right now.

Did you know that More millionaires are made through high ticket affiliate marketing than ANY other industry?

You can learn and create whatever you desire my friends!!

Struggle is absolutely optional.

If you want to watch the replay of the event they watched that had them realize what’s possible drop a LIFE BY DESIGN in the comments and I’ll add u in.

I turned 3 people away from the mentorship over the weekend as this is not for everyone.

Not THIS One… THIS 90 day expansion and is truly for those who have a burning desire for change and expansion and want to move FAST…

This time business is about who we get to “become” in order to hold and open to the life we desire… we have the systems and model already that works.. that’s the easy part😍

We only get ONE shot here my friends and I am here to let you know that there IS ANOTHER way.

Lmk if you want a spot! Mika L Shoemaker can give you the replay and we can jump on a quick call together to answer your questions and see if this feels like a YES!

Love B 💗

18/01/2024

Parenting a-ha moment!

I was gifting my daughter who just turned ten, an outing with 4 friends (that was the max I could bring). She selected 4 and didn’t include one of her best friends.

I asked her why and she said it was because the dynamic between this best friend (let’s call her Emily) and the rest of the friends didn’t work.

I apologized to Emily’s mom (who’s a good friend of mine) that my daughter is choosing her friends list for codependent reasons. Emily found out about the outing and she was really disappointed that she couldn’t go.

Then at the last minute one of the 4 friends cancelled so I made the executive decision to invite Emily to the outing.

We had fun at the outing initially and they all seemed to be getting along. But when we got home the dynamic shifted and I noticed Emily playing on her own.

My daughter, after trying and failing to have everyone get along, asked me to have everyone picked up.

And then I realized something.

I initially thought my daughter was being codependent by letting other kids’ feelings or inability to get along dictate who she invites.

But it was ME who was operating from codependency!

I was the one who didn’t want Emily to be left out.
I was the one who thought that we had to show that we cared about Emily by inviting her.
I was the one who was uncomfortable about how others might feel!

I went against my daughter’s knowing that it wasn’t the right combination of kids… HER boundary was clear! 😖

Conscious parenting teaches me so much ❤️

09/11/2023

Me: “I just need to cry for a few minutes while we play our game ok? I’ll be fine I’m just feeling a lot”

Sia :“Sure”

Me: “ I’m not sure what I’m sad about The tears just need to come out”

Sia: “ that happens to me sometimes too. I just cry and don’t know why”

Me: “yeah and we always feel better once we do right?”

She nods her head and smiles.

Me: “Did you know I used to be a parenting coach and teach parents about a different way to raise their children?”

Sia: “I think you have told me that, yeah”

Me: “When you were a baby I was teaching alot actually. Do you know what I mostly taught parents to do?”

She pauses to think about this…

Sia: “ahhh, Listen to feelings?”

Me: “Yep, Did you know that my parents never knew to let me cry when I was little?
Guess what they did when I cried?”

She looks as me and shrugs her shoulders and smiles having no idea.

I get a stern look on my face and point my finger at her and say “ stop crying”.

She has a look of utter shock and disbelief on her face.

Sia: “what? Why would they do that?”

Me: “Or they would say this
: if you are going to cry go to your room.”

She stares at me stunned, shaking her head confused.

Me :” This is how they were raised and how their parents were raised and it just got passed on down, no one knew how important it is to listen to other people cry especially children, and guess what I learned to do when my parents told me this?”

Sia: “ you learned not to cry and let your feelings out”

Me: “ yeah, and I felt bad alot because of this”

Sia : “wow that is weird”

Me : yep, it’s just how it was done back then but we know more now, we understand a lot more about kids and how our brains work now, so we can change that and share this with people”

Me : “You have never heard me tell you not to cry, i was so determined to do it differently. You have heard me say “ I can’t listen any more right Now, if I needed to take a break from a big cry cause it’s hard to listen for a really really long time, but you have never heard me tell you not too cry”

Sia “ nope”

Me: “But you know what’s so exciting to me? If you ever decide to have a child one day or you babysit a child or when you spend time with other children and friends guess what you have learned to do?”

Sia: “I listen to their feelings”

Me: “Yes! And the cycle stops with YOU and ME we get to show people a different way! And Ocean knows how to listen to feelings too, it’s one of the things I am the most proud of as your mom. You won’t walk around needing to cry so much like I do because you learned to do this from day one of your life and were never squashed, We always feel better after we cry right?”

Sia: “Yep! Remember when you cut my hair way too short and I cried for a REALLY long time and wouldn’t come out of my bedroom?”

Me : “Yeah, I’m so sorry I messed that one up. That was a BIG one you cried for like and hour and half straight while we sat on the bed together”

Sia “ Yeah it was. I was REALLY upset”

Me : “yeah and then u were done and didn’t need to cry anymore about it and didn’t say anything else about it!”

Sia “ Yep, it grew back anyways”🤣

Me “Ok, it’s your turn!”

💗💗💗Crying releases cortisol from the body and helps our brains work properly again.

Crying heals the hurt!!

We ALL need to cry, imagine a world where EVERYONE is listened to!!🙏🏽🙌🏼💃🏻

30/10/2023

Yes she is changing a tire and holding her child😣😞

My heart hurts looking at this image and yet I see THIS “image” every day in various ways out in the real world.

I watch moms loading and unloading their cars, struggling with strollers and big water bottles… never asking for help.

I see them moving chairs around and getting up to get what they need at restaurants instead of asking for help.

I see them carrying HUGE bags around and their children while their husbands don’t carry anything.

I watched 2 families in the forest last week and both mothers were carrying the child AND the lunch and water on their backs while the dads followed along in the back having nothing on their backs or in their arms.

A friend of mine who’s husband is 6’4 told me her back was hurting from a hike, she carried their backpack- when I asked her WHY she didn’t have him carry it, she said “oh it was just easier”🙈

I hear the endless complaints and exhaustion of the women in my community.

I go to my school night and I look around the room and 98% of the mothers are all looking like wilted flowers they are SO SO TIRED.

This is co- created friends.

This is just as much the fault of US as women as it is a confused dynamic with our husbands.

We don’t know how to STOP.

AND

This husband here doesn’t know how to direct his wife to STOP😞

May I share this absolutely was me 10 years ago.

It was me who didn’t know how to ask for help.

I didn’t know how to open to receive leadership and provision from the men around me.

I sure didn’t know how to TRUST men.

Instead I put myself in the “I’ll do it ALL myself” category.

Which meant I never shared my feelings, I put my own needs at the bottom of the totem pole, I was living with SO much blame and judgement because I had no idea how to do things differently!

I grew up a feminist and learned from my culture that I should be able to DO it ALL.

Now I know better💗

💗Now I know that I would NEVER EVER BE THIS woman in the photo.

💗Now I know I would never ever be with a man who didn’t know how to lead me to step aside and handle it himself. 💦💦

Oh sisters, we want SO DEEPLY to feel this protection and care from our men and once we DO- our reality and petspectuve shifts… and there is NO going back!

💗 I feel heartache for all the couples who are in inverted relationships where the woman is running the show.

I believe this inversion in marriages is a KEY if not THE component that leads to divorce. It impacts EVERYTHING and it KILLS desire and attraction.

May I share that…most women believe that we HAVE to run the show… we don’t actually DESIRE this …she just doesn’t know what else to do and is too tired to solve another problem.

So what happens is instead of a marriage thriving and Growing deeper and more passionate, she will begin to build resentment and she will Judge him, silently and to her friends.

Her blame and judgment will fester and erode her life and her marriage and she will have NO idea why she can’t relax and feel rested. Why her anxiety is through the roof.

Why her body is hurting and her nervous system can’t settle down.

She is on high alert all the time because she feels she HAS to DO it ALL HERSELF.

Then she snaps at her husband as she has no idea how to ask for what she needs.

In fact she doesn’t even KNOW what she needs because she is too exhausted to take 20mins and actually FEEL her feelings for herself.

She can’t feel them, she can’t articulate them if she can’t identify them, so around and around they go often for YEARS…

Arguing about things that don’t actually matter at all.

It’s not about what she says it’s about… it’s that she doesn’t feel safe enough to relax and open with her man and she is desperate to FEEL safe and FEEL his leadership.

She doesn’t know what to do about it, she just knows THIS is NOT the life she expected.

💗There is a solution to this ladies💗

One I wish I had learned in my early 30’s instead of my 50’s, it’s called learning how to use Feminine Communication and it changed my LIFE.

I mean everything in my life! It is the gift that keeps on giving because if this woman right here KNEW feminine communication this photo would not exist.

If you desire to learn more about this you are welcome to join my women’s only group UNFILTERED ~ a Group where Moms and Women are unleashed!hed!

And for the men reading this who desire to learn how to tell their wives to STOP… may I suggest you follow Mark Binet and Zak Roedde - they show men how to use masculine communication and I learned from them how to use feminine communication and
There is not a women I know who isn’t wowed when she hears it and FEELS what healthy dominant communication does for her in her body.

To the men reading this I desire to share that we need you more than you may know right now…
we need your leadership.

Happy Monday!

Love B
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