21/04/2022
LIVING A TRULY HAPPY LIFE
To live a truly happy life, you first need to learn how to stop comparing yourself to others.
Almost all of us have this common destructive daily habit of comparing ourselves to others.
We compare houses, jobs, phones, cars, relationships, money, social position, etc. This habit creates negativity within us, which may also reflect in our behavior. So what should we do? How can we get rid of this habit of comparing? If this is what you are now thinking, then the three tips given below will indeed prove to be of help.
Understand that you never will win if you do not stop comparing.
Even if you keep repeating this in your mind and realize this consciously, it will help. Despite whatever you do, how much effort you put in, and how hard you strive, there always has to be someone who is better than you or has more than you.
Of course, you may feel nice if you buy a new smartphone that is better than your colleague has. But pretty soon you will find someone who has a phone better than yours. So, understand that comparing is futile.
Compare yourself only to yourself.
Rather than comparing yourself with others, it will be better if you develop the habit of comparing yourself to yourself. Think about how you have progressed, how much you have grown, and how close you have reached your aims.
This habit will help develop kindness, appreciation, and gratitude towards yourself as you notice how much you have done and all the hurdles you have crossed. So you will be feeling good about yourself without feeling less of others.
It will be a good idea to make this a habit, say by spending a few minutes every weekend to write down how much you have achieved, how closer you now are to your life goals, what you have learned, etc.
Learn to be kind.
Perhaps you never might have even imagined so, but the way you behave with others also impacts how you think about yourself. If you have this habit of constantly criticizing and judging others, most of the time, you will also blame and judge yourself often, even if unconsciously. So, try to help others and be kinder to them, and you automatically will learn to be kinder to yourself.
Just try to focus on the positive things in life, the positives in others, and the positives within yourself. The more you start seeing the good things in others and yourself, you will gradually stop comparing and leading a happier, more satisfying life.