Grow wings

27/09/2019

EMDR conference in Milano with dear colleagues, our trainer Vesna and Isabel Fernandez - President of EMDR Europe. What a treat to learn from the best!

18/09/2019

Kad ovo dobijes od klijenta... LOL!!!!

https://youtu.be/3FZoltF0v6Q

Zabranjeno pušenje su: Sejo Sexon – vokal, back vokali Toni Lović – električne i akustične gitare Branko Trajkov Trak – bubnjevi, udaraljke, back vokali Robe...

21/06/2019

If more of the same is no longer an option: Grow!
Let’s work together
and make your dream life a reality.

In my practice I will not sit silently and nod as you tell your story.
I will challenge you.
I will provoke you.
I will urge you to take responsibility for your life.
I will make you wonder, and I will make you laugh.
I will be your guide while visiting those deep and dark places of pain.
I will not solve your problems for you, but I will help you uncover the potential to solve them yourself.

www.growwings.nl

Grow Wings is a practice based in The Hague that offers psychological counseling and therapy in English, Croatian or French. When more of the same is no longer an option Grow Peace, Confidence, Love, Potential.

14/06/2019

“procrastination” is derived from the Latin verb procrastinare — to put off until tomorrow. But it’s more than just voluntarily delaying. Procrastination is also derived from the ancient Greek word akrasia — doing something against our better judgment.
That self-awareness is a key part of why procrastinating makes us feel so rotten. When we procrastinate, we’re not only aware that we’re avoiding the task in question, but also that doing so is probably a bad idea. And yet, we do it anyway.
https://www.nytimes.com/2019/03/25/smarter-living/why-you-procrastinate-it-has-nothing-to-do-with-self-control.html?fbclid=IwAR1rH9DwRKvFl3jjaV9tICKUoRrJPBzWX3rWDEqFnoGL8PGXlpS1ZZnaiPg

If procrastination isn’t about laziness, then what is it about?

12/06/2019

One of my role models Bessel van der Kolk speaks about problems me and many of my colleagues face: "As long as we live with a diagnostic system without scientific validity, all of us are part of the problem. Too often, we label our patients with the diagnoses that are in line with what the insurance companies will reimburse us for, rather than what’s actually going on. In fact, many clinicians confide to me that they don’t bother making diagnoses at all. But how can you treat anybody and ask to be paid for your services if you don’t have a clear idea of what’s wrong and what you need to do to fix it? How would you feel if you went to a cardiologist who gave you the treatment that the insurance company will pay for without really bothering to find out what’s wrong with you? How can we respect ourselves, and be respected by our non-mental health colleagues, if we continue to rely on the opinions of insurance companies and ignore the basics of good diagnosis and a solid scientific approach to clinical care?"

Pioneering trauma specialist Bessel van der Kolk took aim not only at the politics within the therapy field that determine what diagnoses get into the DSM, but the politics in the larger arena that lead people to ignore the prevalence of trauma in society.

12/06/2019

You worked hard to achieve everything you were told would lead to a fulfilled and happy life. Your outward image is immaculate: perfect body, spouse, kids and a perfect career.
And yet, you are unable to enjoy any of it.
You feel like a shiny apple with a worm inside. Your outward image is immaculate, yet the inner critic is always there to remind you that you are not up to the task and could have done better. It never stops.
If more of the same is no longer an option: Grow peace!
www.growwings.nl/grow-peace

Experience relief from anxiety. Overcome procrastination. Feel more relaxed, balanced and peaceful. Slow down and reconnect with yourself. Stop feeling frustrated and overwhelmed. Become more accepting and compassionate towards yourself. If more of the same is no longer an option: Grow Peace

11/06/2019

Thank you Peter Iocps for sharing article on this important topic. I am sharing on. It is OK not to be OK. It is OK to talk about it.

May is Mental Health Awareness month. Here's why it's vital to men everywhere.

11/06/2019

The sun is back and it is time to bloom. Are you ready to get out from a dark place and let your true colors shine from within?

10/06/2019

Sometimes changing the perspective is all it takes for life to start making sense again.

09/06/2019

You are successful at many things, but not love. You desire a partner that loves you just the way you are. You keep attracting the wrong or unavailable people .
All your partners seem fine at the beginning but change after a short time. You are afraid that there aren’t any good men (or women) out there or they are already taken!
You wonder if something is wrong with you.
If more of the same is no longer an option: Grow love
www.growwings.nl/grow-love

YOU are successful at many things, but NOT love. OR: You are in a relationship, but something feels off. OR: YOU want to move on, but you just can't let go of the pain, hope and anything that keeps you connected to the past. If more of the same is no longer an option: Grow Love

08/06/2019

Sometimes you come across an article and it seams like the writer just downloaded your own thoughts about the subject... So instead of being smart I will quote:
True self-care is not salt baths and chocolate cake, it is making the choice to build a life you don’t need to regularly escape from.
It is letting yourself be normal. Regular. Unexceptional. It is sometimes having a dirty kitchen and deciding your ultimate goal in life isn’t going to be having abs and keeping up with your fake friends. It is deciding how much of your anxiety comes from not actualizing your latent potential, and how much comes from the way you were being trained to think before you even knew what was happening.
https://thoughtcatalog.com/brianna-wiest/2017/11/this-is-what-self-care-really-means-because-its-not-all-salt-baths-and-chocolate-cake/?fbclid=IwAR1kXbBgakwoZ2HnevhFRgNGrImmdyTKJ-XCHWqSnMqpRl46li9JuoZgtRM

Did you use the right filter for that ‘gram of your impeccably prepared acai bowl?

07/06/2019

Full arch double rainbow- promise of good things ahead of us!

07/06/2019

Are you living your life doing things you don’t really want to do, and neglecting things that are truly important to you?

Do you fill obligated to fulfill spoken or unspoken obligations to family, society, etc?

Do you wish you had more courage to do the things you wanted, instead of the things you feel you should do?

We are here for a limited time only.

Don’t allow life to run faster than you!
Catch up on your dreams!
www.growwings.nl/grow-potential

06/06/2019

Painful things don’t go away because you ignore them. If they did, dentists would go out of business :-) However it is possible to just act like it never happened... at least for a while...

05/06/2019

You took all the right turns, but ended up at the wrong destinations.
Life is not what you intended it to be.
You have all the preconditions to be happy, instead you are exhausted, anxious, lonely, overwhelmed.
On the outside it looks like you have it all, yet inside you feel incapable, fake, insecure and wounded.
You try harder, achieve more, just to make sure everyone likes you!
The façade you put up is amazing, but within your walls you feel empty, sad, angry and unhappy.

You secretly wander if something is wrong with you.

If more of the same is no longer an option Grow
www.growwings.nl

04/05/2019

Over 2000 citrus trees in bloom. Can not breathe enough the air filled with the scents... serenity to mind and body.... joy to the heart.

25/04/2019

Tough life on the beach. “...this hunger for enough down time and quiet, the almost constant awareness of others and concern for doing things right.” Right on spot for me... if you feel the same reading book on The Highly Sensitive Person would bring so much relief.

12/03/2019

On some level we all realize the potential we hold within ourselves. We know we cradle within more ability, creativity, power than what we are using. We know we hold the key to make that difference in our life we long for... but somehow is remains outside of our reach... Like we touch it with a tips of our fingers, so we know it is there, but when we try to reach for it it gets pushed further away... NOTE: it is us pushing it away. We are standing in our own way. Or more preciously what we learned to believe about our-self, about the world, about what is possible or not. We can always choose to learn other way. Simple, but not easy.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bsCBkFBHMGE

Simon T. Bailey’s life was thrown into a tailspin when his daughter muttered these 5 words: “I’ll just come back later”. This is the story of how one daughte...

05/03/2019

Why my new web site takes sooooo long to do

16/11/2018

Love is choosing the same person over and over again. Distance is not a problem. Wounds are not the problem...

13/11/2018

Growing up as a child is definitely different than at the time I was little. Life styles and society has changed so much and being a parent is as challenging as ever. Even with best intentions I find myself falling into traps... I found this article useful in many ways... maybe it can help you too.
https://deeprootsathome.com/kids-friendless-bored-impatient/?fbclid=IwAR1FXEx1xYni-BHkwRsN9-93Jm4zj3k7N8v7oyzIlY9JUX5JscXmL62iUnA

I understand that many would choose not to hear what Victoria Prooday says in the article, but your kids need you to hear this message.

12/11/2018

"The debate around male mental health has undoubtedly opened up in the last year or so.
The stigma is dropping away and famous names from sport, music and film have all come forward to talk about their struggles, and how they dealt with depression, anxiety and stress.
But when the talking stops what happens then?
Many experts working in mental health worry that there’s still a reticence to go and find help, even after the admission that someone is struggling.
There’s no sugar-coating it. Admitting you need help is a difficult thing to do."
http://www.ladbible.com/mental-health-historical/news-men-need-to-talk-about-mental-health-then-do-something-about-it-20181107?fbclid=IwAR0TLcja2CmieMBtaoRdKgZuPfU9wpuITqAWaqMACXg7_0vDXZlPkdWuZRU #

Talking is the first step, but men need to know how - and where - to get help. That's the goal for the relaunch of U OK M8

08/11/2018

The “night sea journey “ is the journey into the parts of ourselves that are split off, disavowed, unknown, cast out, and exiled to the various subterranean worlds of consciousness... the goal of this journey is to reunite us with ourselves. Such a homecoming can be surprisingly painful, even brutal. In order to undertake it, we must first agree to exile nothing. Stephen Cope

30/10/2018

Many clients worry at the beginning whether they will loose who they are if they engage in therapy. Most of them says that being their true genuine self became so much easier after the therapy.
My goal is never to change anyone, but just help them be who they truly are.
Image by: Dawid Zawila via unsplash

29/10/2018

When I was young I so wished to fit in... so I trimmed my wings, renounced part of my personality that was different... and lost the sight of who I truthfully am. I am glad I went back collecting pebbles I have left along the way and returned to self.
Just because at the times you had to shape yourself in a way to fit in, does not mean you have to stay that way forever.
Being you brings back joy and purpose to your life. Fitting in trims your wings. What do you choose?

28/10/2018

I love this initiative. Last year I wanted to do something like this in a local community center, but they were not very open to the idea, since I can do it only in English...

26/10/2018

"When something reminds traumatized people of the past, their right brain reacts as if the traumatic event were happening in the present. But because their left brain is not working very well, they may not be aware that they are re-experiencing and reenacting the past - they are just furious, terrified, enraged, ashamed, or frozen. After the emotional storm passes, they may look for something or somebody to blame for it. They behaved the way they did because YOU were ten minutes late, or because YOU burned the potatoes, or because YOU "never listen to me." Of course, most of us have done this from time to time, but when we cool down, we hopefully can admit our mistake. Trauma interferes with this kind of awareness..." Bessel van der Kolk

24/10/2018

"Sometimes we use our minds not to discover facts, but to hide them..." Antonio Damassio

21/10/2018

It is OK to say that you can not manage it yourself. You do not need to be alone, small, ashamed... It is OK to ask for help. It is OK to learn how to deal with it, manage it or overcome it!