10/23/2023
If I get dementia, Iβd like my family, friends and Carers to hang this wish list up on the wall where I live. I want them to remember these things.
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1. If I get dementia, I want my friends and family to embrace my reality.
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2. If I think my spouse is still alive, or if I think weβre visiting my parents for dinner, let me believe those things. Iβll be much happier for it.
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3. If I get dementia, donβt argue with me about what is true for me versus what is true for you.
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4. If I get dementia, and I am not sure who you are, do not take it personally. My timeline is confusing to me.
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5. If I get dementia, and can no longer use utensils, do not start feeding me. Instead, switch me to a finger-food diet, and see if I can still feed myself.
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6. If I get dementia, and I am sad or anxious, hold my hand and listen. Do not tell me that my feelings are unfounded.
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7. If I get dementia, I donβt want to be treated like a child. Talk to me like the adult that I am.
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8. If I get dementia, I still want to enjoy the things that Iβve always enjoyed. Help me find a way to exercise, read, and visit with friends.
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9. If I get dementia, ask me to tell you a story from my past.
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10. If I get dementia, and I become agitated, take the time to figure out what is bothering me.
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11. If I get dementia, treat me the way that you would want to be treated.
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12. If I get dementia, make sure that there are plenty of snacks for me in the house. Even now if I donβt eat I get angry, and if I have dementia, I may have trouble explaining what I need.
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13. If I get dementia, donβt talk about me as if Iβm not in the room.
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14. If I get dementia, donβt feel guilty if you cannot care for me 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Itβs not your fault, and youβve done your best. Find someone who can help you, or choose a great new place for me to live.
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15. If I get dementia, and I live in a dementia care community, please visit me often.
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16. If I get dementia, donβt act frustrated if I mix up names, events, or places. Take a deep breath. Itβs not my fault.
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17. If I get dementia, make sure I always have my favorite music playing within earshot.
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18. If I get dementia, and I like to pick up items and carry them around, help me return those items to their original place.
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19. If I get dementia, donβt exclude me from parties and family gatherings.
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20. If I get dementia, know that I still like receiving hugs or handshakes.
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21. If I get dementia, remember that I am still the person you know and love.
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