Sex and Happiness

Women have been conditioned to stay quiet about what they really want, worried about judgment or shame for having those desires. 🙈 Meanwhile, men are doing their best to “figure it out,” often taking cues from women who aren’t fully expressing what they desire. It’s a cycle that leaves everyone disconnected. 🪄 Part of the magic of Ta**ra (and the teachings we share at ISTA) is giving people a clear roadmap. We create space for honest, fearless conversations about boundaries, desires, and intimacy- empowering you to speak your truth with confidence. ⛔ Let go of shame. Let go of the guessing. ⛔ Just deep, authentic connection. Ready to learn how to have conversations that transform your relationships and deepen your intimacy? This is exactly what we explore in my Inner Circle Membership. Join now and start mastering the art of conscious communication: https://bit.ly/lauriehandlers-innercircle #lauriehandlers #communicationalchemy #communicationtechniques #selfexpression #intimacycoach

You finally meet someone amazing… and then, somehow, it all falls apart. Maybe it’s the first conversation. Maybe it happens down the line. But for so many singles, navigating the early stages of connection can feel like walking through a minefield. That’s why Michael and I are bringing Extraordinary Lovers to singles—to help you not just attract love, but actually keep it. 💫 Join us at the Extraordinary Lovers Experience for Singles 📍 May 8-11, 2025 | Boulder, CO Because the truth is, you can’t give people a taste of who you’re not and expect the relationship to thrive. 🎧 Catch my full conversation with Leah Alchin Piper and Dr. Willow Brown on The S*x Reimagined Podcast here: https://youtu.be/wGw2RrvF2Wc. #LaurieHandlers #extraordinarylovers #singlesretreat #datingadvice #ta**ra

Somewhere along the way, most women were told we take up too much space, feel too deeply, and express ourselves too boldly. Over time, those messages got stuck on repeat, keeping many of us small, caged in, and disconnected. But that voice? It isn’t yours. It’s conditioning. It’s fear. And it’s time to stop listening. You are needed. You are vibrant. You are powerful. And you are more than enough. If no one’s told you today… I see you, I celebrate you, and I LOVE your unique expression. 💫 Drop a ❤️‍🔥 in the comments if you’re done dimming your light! #LaurieHandlers #womenempowered #youareenough #nevertoomuch #womeninalignment

😨 The fear of being undesirable as we age is real. For women over 50, it can feel like we’ve become invisible. For men, especially those a little clumsy, introverted, or neurodivergent, they’re unfairly labeled as “creepy.” I’ve seen it happen over and over in my courses- those over 50 are present, yet no one is approaching them unless they “look the part.” ⚡ Enough. It’s time to reclaim our visibility, our desire, and our right to be fully seen. That’s why I started leading retreats and experiences designed to bring confidence, magnetism, and pleasure back to those who refuse to fade into the background. Because attraction doesn’t have an expiration date—it just needs the right space to flourish. 🌹 Stay tuned because I’m always creating new ways for those over 50 to rediscover their power, confidence, and desire. 💋 And if you’re ready to reclaim your desirability now, grab a copy of my book S*x & Happiness: It Gets Better with Age: https://bit.ly/lauriehandlers-books. Because attraction, intimacy, and pleasure don’t expire. #LaurieHandlers #s*xandhappiness #womanauthor #livefullyalive #s*xyateveryage

🥀 Couples don’t know how to touch each other. Not because they don’t want to, but because no one ever taught them how. On The S*x Reimagined Podcast, I joined Leah Alchin Piper and Dr. Willow Brown to discuss the missing pieces in modern relationships—why so many couples lose passion, how touch can be transformed into a conscious practice, and what it really takes to sustain deep intimacy. We assume intimacy is instinctual, that passion should “just happen.” But a real, lasting connection is a skill that can be learned, refined, and deepened. That’s exactly what Michael and I teach at The Extraordinary Lovers Experience. 💫 Touch is about attunement—learning to map your partner’s body, listen with your hands, and read the unspoken language of energy and desire. We’re inviting you to experience this firsthand. Join us for one of our upcoming Extraordinary Lovers couples retreats: 📍 May 1-4 | Boulder, CO 📍 May 28- June 3 | Greece This is your chance to rewrite the trajectory of your relationship. 💞 🎧 Catch my full conversation with Leah Piper and Dr. Willow Brown on The S*x Reimagined Podcast here: https://youtu.be/wGw2RrvF2Wc #LaurieHandlers #ExtraordinaryLovers #CouplesRetreat #ReignitePassion #RelationshipGoals #Ta**ra #EmbodiedIntimacy

Something shifts after 50. The worries of "How do I look?" and "What do people think of me?" start to fade. Instead, a new question emerges… 🤷‍♀️ How do I want to live the rest of my life? For so many, this is the time to reclaim passion, embrace pleasure, and step into a reality filled with vibrancy, confidence, and deep fulfillment. That’s why I’ve created retreats specifically designed for people over 50—to help them reignite their spark, reconnect with their desires, and step fully into a life that truly turns them on. 🔥 I had an incredible conversation with Deb Boulanger on Life After Corporate, where we explored what it means to start fresh, redefine love, and reconnect with your purpose. 🎧 Listen now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or directly here: https://lifeaftercorporate.com/podcast/starting-a-business-later-in-life/ #LaurieHandlers #lifeaftercorporate #applepodcasts #purpose #s*xandhappiness

Love each other but lost the spark? Arguing nonstop? Feeling more like roommates than lovers? Love isn’t the problem, stagnation is. So many couples find themselves drifting into routine, unknowingly neutralizing the magnetic pull between each other. Passion thrives on contrast, tension, and intention. It isn’t gone forever, it’s just buried under habit. ❤️‍🔥 Want to rekindle that spark? Try these simple but radical shifts to bring passion back into your relationship! ❤️‍🔥 The science backs it up, desire needs polarity. And the good news? It’s never too late to bring it back. Let’s break out of autopilot and into something extraordinary. What’s one shift you’ve made (or are willing to try) to reignite passion in your relationship? Drop it in the comments! ⬇️ #LaurieHandlers #extraordinarylovers #relationshipadvice #couplesadvice #reignitepassion #marriageadvice

Remember the hot, juicy moments before rushing into the main event? The stolen kisses, the teasing touches, the thrill of anticipation? 💋 Those moments aren’t lost, they’re waiting to be reclaimed! I realized a long time ago that it’s my prerogative to slow down, and that’s exactly why I created my Inner Circle Membership. 💗 Join me to rediscover connection, explore deeper intimacy, and transform how we approach love and relationships. Visit https://bit.ly/lauriehandlers-innercircle today! #lauriehandlers #intimacy #slowdown #relationshipjourney #relationshipgoals

Have you ever truly let go and allowed your body to express itself freely, without judgment or preconceived ideas? In Ta**ra, one technique for self-generating pleasure is Latihan, a practice of “following inner guidance.” You simply stand, open yourself to existence, and let energy flow through you. It might lead to laughter, dancing, singing, crying - or something entirely unexpected! 🪩 Latihan is pure, authentic movement. It’s about releasing control, letting your body take the lead, and experiencing the magic of being fully present in your own skin. This practice invites us to toss aside the mental scripts society has handed us about s*x and love-making. Instead, we step into the unknown, embracing the beauty of our unfiltered, raw, and extraordinary selves. Have you ever tried something like this? Or perhaps explored it the last time I shared about it? I’d love to hear about your experience in the comments! 💫 #lauriehandlers #ta**ra #latihan #selfdiscovery #embodiment #selfexpression Extraordinary Lovers

🌬️ When we react, we lose our center. Fear, panic, and an unregulated nervous system can trap us in a space of knee-jerk decisions. It’s survival mode; it’s our reptilian brain convinced there’s a bear at the door. 🐻 True power lies in choice. The more agency we have, the more empowered we feel. And the first step toward reclaiming that choice? Taking a breath. Thank you, Diamond Michael Scott, for having me on the “Great Books, Great Voices” podcast! It was such an honor. 🎧 Listen to the full episode by visiting https://chocolatetaoist.substack.com/p/bringing-love-and-intimacy-into-2025. #lauriehandlers #choices #selfempowerment #mindfulness #groundingtechniques #breathwork

Think about it: If someone doesn’t know your boundaries, how can they honor them? Whether it’s about lending something, carving out time, or even asking before calling, boundaries set the "rules of the game." Once you communicate, "Hey, I’m like this," it’s like handing people a map, and most are relieved to know where the lines are. ❣️ Boundaries don’t just protect your energy; they empower your relationships, so let’s normalize setting them with love and clarity! Follow along for more insights and tips on creating authentic and thriving connections. #lauriehandlers #boundaries #selfempowerment #authenticconnection #personalgrowth

Think about it: If someone doesn’t know your boundaries, how can they honor them? Whether it’s about lending something, carving out time, or even asking before calling, boundaries set the "rules of the game." Once you communicate, "Hey, I’m like this," it’s like handing people a map, and most are relieved to know where the lines are. ❣️ Boundaries don’t just protect your energy; they empower your relationships, so let’s normalize setting them with love and clarity! Follow along for more insights and tips on creating authentic and thriving connections. #lauriehandlers #boundaries #selfempowerment #authenticconnection #personalgrowth