Billie Allen

06/15/2017

On the other side of fear is bliss.

Will Smith talks about his experience skydiving. Funny and inspiring with a great message at the end!

06/10/2017

If I just knew what to focus on...
If I just had the level of support that I really need from a team and a coach who were as invested in my success as they are about their own...
If I could just get over my fear and limiting beliefs...
THEN I could achieve something so great I would even shock myself...

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“There are two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.” – Einstein

01/24/2017

What if fear and doubt could propel you forward instead of holding you back?

How to Use Fear & Doubt to Your Advantage by Billie Allen | Jan 24, 2017 | Blog | 0 comments “And your doubt can become a good quality if you train it. It must become knowing, it must become criticism. Ask it, whenever it wants to spoil something for you, why something is ugly, demand proofs fro...

12/03/2016

This is a beautiful exercise. Set aside distractions and take a few minutes right now to do it wholeheartedly.

(It's not morbid; it's uplifting. Do it now! You'll be glad you did!)

02/20/2016

02/20/2016

Do you know the difference between feedforward and feedback? A few years ago I learned about this distinction (via Marshall Goldsmith) and began applying it in my life and work.

(Btw, fellow San Diegan and world-renowned executive coach Marshall Goldsmith has a whole treasure trove of powerful resources like this - check out the rest of his online library.)

http://www.marshallgoldsmithlibrary.com/cim/articles_display.php?aid=110

02/18/2016

FEAR HAS NO FUTURE

I think often what we're really afraid of is the unknown. We don't carry out the scenario of our fears and so the default unconscious feeling is that the fear will result in "the end of the world." However, if we begin to deconstruct our fears, they lose their power over us.

I once coached a Marine - who was training to be a Drill Seargeant - through his fears. He was terrified that he would fail his training, and his stress level was making that outcome more likely. I asked, "Well, if you failed, what's the worst thing that could happen...would you just be transferred to another job in the marines?" "No," he responded, "If I fail, that's it. I'm out completely." So I asked, "Well, if that happened, what would you do?" After a pause, he said, "I guess I'd move back home." "And then what?" I asked. "I'd probably go back to school," he said. And then he smiled. "That really wouldn't be that bad," he admitted.

In those few short minutes, the worry had left his face. He looked lighter, peaceful. He was still just as committed to be a Drill Seargeant - he was very passionate about that leadership role - but the fear was gone.

What fears have a hold on you? Imagine the worse case scenario and keep asking yourself, "And if that happens, then what?" As you do so, the power the fear has over you will become less and less until it finally disappears - because you've now created a survivable scenario where previously a future did not exist.

02/02/2016

STOP SETTLING

Stop settling for small talk.
Stop settling for unfulfilling relationships.
Stop settling for meaningless work.
Stop settling for a life of busy-ness.
Stop thinking you have to compromise on ANYTHING.

Life isn't about compromise.
Life is about possibility.
Stop settling.

01/07/2016

"All our dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them."

- Walt Disney

08/19/2015

07/21/2015

Awesome video series on leadership.

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL4zC83ux9sumKQXN-nWBxtDf-jr_Z11G1

06/05/2015

I believe in managing energy not time. And most of our energy is not actually spent doing, but thinking unproductively. So one thing I've taken on as a mental discipline project is not second-guessing my decisions. Or when I do, to notice and reset as soon as possible. Like everything else, it's a practice, but definitely one worth cultivating.

There are no perfect decisions. We can never know the bigger plan. The best we can do is try to get the intention right.

The article below has some great ideas on how to move beyond second-guessing.

Decisions can be scary because you never know for certain how things will pan out once you decide. If you've ever doubted your choices, this post is for you.