EXPLORING RELATIONSHIPS
In Connecting by design we explore couple, family and work relationships using the tools of Family Constellation and Human Design. IN a short once off session it is possible to gain radical insights into a range of issues...addictions, work problems, illnesses. intimacy, children....
Neo Human Design is a remarkable personality assessment tool. Using only the hour, place
and date of your birth a map is created that is a detailed and testable picture of your energetic make up. The calculations to produce the graphics are possible thanks to modern computers but the system is a fusion of Astrology, the I Ching, genetics and Quantum Physics. The end result is a chart of the chemical and biological highways that are your nature and along which travel your responses to every situation that you encounter. It is full of information about your essential nature and mechanical individuality. It illustrates your unique mode of participating in life .... conciously and unconciously, your way of relating, the places of emotionality, what impulses move you, your fears, your strengths, your talents. It guides you on how to relate to others, who best to work with, why certain things work with your partner and others dont. As you become aware of these mecanisms
the projections and the blaming and the desire that somehow the other should be different, all slowly begin to disappear. You relax more and more in the acceptence of who you are, observing from a little distance your preconceptions and expectations.., and there is space to begin to enjoy your natural talents and your unique way of being in the world.... and to realise that the other person who is with you also has his or her own unique and mysterious way of being. They have their own unique Neo Human Design just as you have..and so the study of your design also
also converts into a unique portal to meditation
And then there is the observation that you are more than just an individual. You are part of a family, a culture and a time. This history also has an enormous influence on how you act and how you allow your natural energy to manifest. Many times the natural energy and way of expression that is our design is suppressed by conditionings that you carry from the past. In his work with thousands of family systems, Bert Hellinger has found what he describes as a natural order of love which is deeply engraved in the family group memory. There is a conscience or family soul that, in an invisible and unconscious way for its members, is passed from generation to generation and which conditions the behaviour and destiny of each of the individuals of that family. What one generation leaves unresolved is somehow taken on by members of subsequent generations in an innocent and unconscious attempt to re-establish balance. This can often lead us to assume behaviours and difficulties which do not belong to us and in fact create more disorder instead of less. We often bring this disorder with us to our couple relationships
And you see that you do not come to the relationship alone, but with a whole rich and varied family system...And your partner does not come alone....
”Family Constellations can be understood – as a therapeutic method, as a meditation and as a way to connect with something mysterious that lies beyond our normal ideas about concience, beyond our normal sense of personal identity “
Svagito Liebermeister, author of The Roots of Love
And although we focus on the couple relationship, it is clear that this work enriches any connection whether between parents and children, work collegues, friends etc. And it is also suitable if you dont have a partner and wish to explore this option. www.connectingbydesign.net
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