04/25/2024
A man I loved died this week at an age too young and it has cracked my heart wide with grief. It’s been a moment with too much sadness, first with a very deep family loss that shook my heart wide that I’ve been unable to speak of and stress and the pain of deep sorrow for the world.
A Jewish girl meets a Muslim boy across a crowded room. We were two strangers who saw each other, we made eyes and smiled, nervously looked away and then came together and something special began. Both with dark curly hair, but from different backgrounds. He was funny and smart and handsome and so kind and had with a mischievousness and a sense of both childlike playfulness and vulnerability that sent us through a rabbit hole in our connection.
While dating, I found our traditions (though different) helped make a shared sense of understanding - family, tradition and our people. We enjoyed each other. We were friends. Here love grew.
Yesterday we buried sweet Summy (who would hate me writing about him as much as he hated me taking his picture). He suffered terribly from epilepsy, which took his life. Yesterday I sat on the rug in his community mosque in prayer with his people, the only Jew in an enormous room in a tradition different but in many ways not unlike my own and I felt embraced. At first a stranger, but then held, held by his family, friends and his people who saw my pain and tears and propped me up with kindness and love. I miss Summy terribly, we were planning to see each other soon, I feel that we are still in that conversation and I’m filled with the sadness and regret of never knowing what might have happened in other versions of the story.
But yesterday in Detroit, my heart was held by his people, our cousins. I wish we could all embrace now in this collective sorrow and grief. There’s so much more possible with love.
God bless you Summy. I’m so grateful for the moments that we shared and having you in my life and in knowing you and what passed between us.
Yesterday I learned that in Islam that you could hear our words until the last footsteps walked from the grave. I will forever carry you with me.
Rest in peace love.