Touch Without Agenda

29/08/2024

Should I have a**l s*x with haemorrhoids? What are external and internal haemorrhoids? Difference between haemorrhoid vs a**l fissure? Can my diet prevent haemorrhoids?

19/08/2024

While sm**ma has a cheese-like consistency, you don't want it on your cheese board! 🧀

It's a thick, whitish discharge made of dead skin cells, oil and other fluids found in the ge***al area. It can often collect under the fo****in.

Having sm**ma is completely normal — it even plays an important role in protecting and lubricating the p***s! But, if you have a lot of sm**ma or it's smelly, it might be a sign you need to wash your p***s more often. 🍆🧼

Both circumcised and uncircumcised p***ses should be cleaned each day:
💦 wet your p***s with warm water and lather it with mild soap
💦 gently wash the entire area, including the base, shaft and head
💦 if you have a fo****in, gently pull it back to clean underneath
💦 rinse your p***s thoroughly with water
💦 pat your p***s dry all over with a clean towel.

There's no need to pull back or clean underneath the fo****in in babies and young children. Simply wash the p***s with mild soap and water. After puberty, if your child has a fo****in, they should be able to pull it back and clean underneath it easily.

Regularly washing your downstairs region will reduce your risk of skin irritation and some common infections like balanitis (when the head of the p***s becomes inflamed, red and itchy). If you notice any changes to your p***s, let your doctor know.

ℹ️ Sources:
Health Direct (2023). P***s Care
The University of Queensland (2019). How do I clean my p***s?

16/08/2024

One of our most loved events is coming up! Come along to the Erotic Forest Ritual for a fun night of touch, pleasure and exploration. Friday, August 23rd. Tickets selling fast.

Come and explore the forrest of trees in a wonderful night of consent, touch and pleasure.

12/08/2024

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06/08/2024

31/07/2024

https://www.bvibe.com/a**l-play-101/er****on-while-bottoming/?amp

Why can't I get an er****on while bottoming? And even so, how do I stay hard? We asked an a**l s*x expert to share the best tips for maintaining er****ons.

17/07/2024

I was a smart kid who grew up in an environment with a lot of emotional dysregulation (everybody's emotional state revolved around one chronically dysregulated parent).

Which meant I was chronically disconnected from how I was actually feeling, hyper-attuned to micro changes in others, and very good at overthinking everything.

It took me a very long time to first start to connect to my own body's signals, and even longer to put space between the narratives, thoughts, and stories that perpetuated my upset feelings when they flooded my body.
Everything was my fault, or someone else's.
It took a REALLY long time to realize that that kind of thinking NEVER lead to the outcome I hoped for.
Often, just thinking itself didn't lead to the outcome I hoped for.

What did lead to better outcomes was first becoming attuned to my own feelings & body sensations, and becoming aware of when I was activated. Then learning how to self-soothe, or to share how I was feeling and ask for help soothing from someone I trusted.

Then I could approach the feeling (what unmet need or trigger activated me?) and the situation with my wiser-mind, and think through how I wanted to proceed.

Creating safety in our bodies and in our relationships is an incredibly important skill - and one that many people are needing to learn how to do as an adult. You're not alone in this.

Self-attunement and self-soothing are just two of the topics we'll be exploring more deeply in the 6 month Group Program beginning TOMORROW. Today is the last day to register and some WONDERFUL people are already signed up - don't miss out!
(payment plans are available)

https://theeqschool.co/the-group

16/07/2024

26/05/2024

17/05/2024

Last chance for tonight’s workshop! Handful of tickets left.

Do you get want you want? Do you know what you want? Come and explore a wonderful night of consent, touch and pleasure.

06/05/2024

May's Touch Without Agenda event is Bossy Massage - a workshop on learning what you want and how to get it! Come along for a delicious night of pleasure and touch.

Do you get want you want? Do you know what you want? Come and explore a wonderful night of consent, touch and pleasure.

04/05/2024

Always the first to arrive? Does it hurt when you sq**rt? 💦

It can be hard to talk about ej*******on concerns, but they're actually very common and nothing to be ashamed of.

Here's some of the main ones that can occur:
🍆 Premature ej*******on: regularly ej*******ng sooner than you wish or with minimal stimulation.
🍆 Delayed ej*******on: difficulty with reaching or**sm and ej*******ng.
🍆 Painful ej*******on: this can range from mild discomfort to severe pain during or after ej*******on. The pain can involve the p***s, sc***um, and/or the perineal area (the area between your a**s and sc***um).
🍆 Retrograde ej*******on: when semen travels backwards and enters the bladder when you have an or**sm, instead of going forward, out through the p***s.

These can have a serious impact on your relationships and s*x life. They can also be a sign of more complex physical or medical issues.

Now that you've got a firm grasp on ej*******on problems, make sure you have a chat with your healthcare provider if you experience any issues or pain. There's lots of treatment options that may be able to help. ❤️

ℹ️ Source:
Healthy Male (2024). Delayed ej*******on | Painful ej*******on | Premature ej*******on | Retrograde ej*******on

16/04/2024

People pleasing.

This unlocked a new level of understanding for me, and how I started to learn about my own areas of emotional unavailability. I NEVER thought I was emotionally unavailable, despite often finding myself in relationships with or pursuing emotionally unavailable people. After all, I felt my feelings strongly and I was very attuned to other people’s emotions, so that must mean I was available, right?

What I've slowly learned is that by downplaying my own needs and feelings in order to hold space for and meet the needs of everyone else, I wasn't being honest with myself OR them.

I wasn't actually letting people see me.

I was controlling the narrative, and would often end up being passive aggressive later on down the line because I hadn't been open about what was working for me throughout the relationship. Sometimes I didn't even know, because I was so desperate to be accepted that I was just trying to be who I thought they wanted me to be/or who I needed to be to be seen as "good."

Emotional availability is being present to your feelings and needs and being willing to share them, and allowing the other person to have their own feelings and responses to your needs.
It's vulnerable bc we're never sure what's going to happen - we have to let other people have their own experiences in relationship to us.

And of course, we people-please for a reason. I didn't do this on purpose; it was what I was raised to do in my family system because many parts of my Self were shamed early on, so I developed the ability to hide them. I still sometimes have to fight the urge to downplay my own needs and to actually speak up when my feelings might inconvenience someone. But I see it now.

Hiding your actual needs and feelings doesn't allow other people to see the real you. They don't get to know the real you or hold space for the real you. They don't get the privilege of helping you when you need it, or get to show deeper sides of their personality if they're only ever responding to one aspect of yours.

If you're working on this, it can feel scary and triggering (again, for reasons that make a lot of sense). The live Let It Go (emotional self management) Workshop begins May 8, where you'll learn how to meet yourself with greater compassion and grounding when experiencing tough emotions.
Register by April 19 (Friday!) and save $75 with code EARLYBIRD75 at checkout.

https://theeqschool.co/let-it-go-workshop

09/04/2024

Hello wonderful humans. There is no April workshop or group booked due to me having time off. I’ll also be unable to offer one on one sessions from mid April to early May.

I’ll post up a May event soon.

28/03/2024

27/03/2024

🛑 We’ve changed the ability to comment on this post to established followers only. Sadly the comments have got out of hand and our admins can’t keep up, especially on a long weekend.

explained to kids and their grown ups. By Elise Gravel - English

05/03/2024

The next Men's Erotic Touch Group is a week and a bit away. Come along on Friday the 15th of March for a wonderful night of exploration and pleasure.

Have you ever wanted to explore erotic touch? Welcome to those first steps on the journey of exploration and enjoyment.

28/02/2024

The word 'boundaries' is thrown around so much, and I think there's a lot of nuance and practice that goes into having healthy boundaries. I once saw someone say that flipping the bird to catcallers is an okay boundary, and while you can do whatever you want when you want to - I disagree with that sentiment.

Boundaries actually help create and deepen intimacy and connection in relationships. They are inherently vulnerable, because to do them well, we have to be in touch with our own needs and sensitivities and first be willing to hold boundaries internally. When we're better at respecting & honoring our own needs, it becomes more natural to invite others do to the same.

(And I once told a catcaller that I wished he would stop talking about my body because I was feeling unsafe, and not only did he genuinely apologize, he stopped a second guy from doing it a moment later. It was a beautiful moment.)

Boundaries hold space for the things that make us feel safe, balanced, calm, connected, and like ourselves.

And to be a person who has "healthy boundaries," we have to do the work to figure out what goes inside that boundary container - what do I need? What is MY responsibility to myself? What is my role here? What is going to bring me peace? Am I in a place where I can handle this? And, most importantly, we have to learn to start communicating these things throughout our relationships.

If you're setting boundaries to change other people's behavior and see THEM as the ones who need to change, let me offer this reframe; your boundaries are about YOU and your needs.

Try approaching them from a place of, "hey, I'm telling you this because I care about you and our relationship and would love to let you in on what's going on for me internally," instead of, "if you're late again, I can't be your friend."

If you'd like more help figuring out what goes inside your boundaries container, the Self Awareness Workshop begins Thursday, March 28. Six weeks of exploring the building blocks that shape how you show up in the world so you can begin to understand how to connect and be more compassionate with yourself and others.

https://theeqschool.co/self-awareness-sign-up

27/02/2024

18/02/2024

11/02/2024

Reminder that final sales for the Men's Erotic Forrest Ritual are open. The event is THIS THURSDAY. Only 6 tickets left.

Come and explore the forrest of trees in a wonderful night of consent, touch and pleasure.

28/01/2024

A great read!

It turns out every part of the narrative we’re taught about desire is not merely wrong, but wrongheaded

06/01/2024

More wonderful information from Bobby Box. You can follow him on Instagram here

https://www.instagram.com/bybobbybox?igsh=MWU3cHdmczFuMXZ5Yw==

31/12/2023

An exciting new event for 2024 - come along to explore the Erotic Forrest Ritual (Indoors!)

Come and explore the forrest of trees in a wonderful night of consent, touch and pleasure.

31/12/2023

First event off the ranks for 2024 - https://www.eventbrite.com.au/e/786867390547?aff=oddtdtcreator

Get your tickets now

Have you ever wanted to explore erotic touch? Welcome to those first steps on the journey of exploration and enjoyment.

31/12/2023

Touch Without Agenda now has a mailing list for people that want to stay up to date with our events, workshops and sessions.

You can sign up here -

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02/12/2023

From ByBobbyBox - https://instagram.com/bybobbybox?igshid=YzAwZjE1ZTI0Zg==

29/11/2023

The 4 Main Trauma Responses

We can be a combination of these.

In understanding which we have - we can begin to manage them.

(Please note I say 'Main' trauma responses, but there are a few more some have written about like flop, flag, faint, fright.)

I have information on my website - which I have permission from Pete Walker to use.

https://www.healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.com/

~ Lilly Hope Lucario
💜
Healing From Complex Trauma and Ptsd/cptsd

29/11/2023