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Personal Transformations is a certified, registered and fully insured Irish business that is 100% committed to serving your needs. It's located in Navan Town and only 25 minutes from Blanchardstown on the M3 Motorway. Its owner David Kelly is a graduate of the Institute of Clinical Hypnotherapy & Psychotherapy which, established in 1979, is today one of the most recognised and respected institutes

of its kind in Ireland. Moreover, he is a fully qualified, insured and registered practitioner dedicated to helping people heal themselves and also improve their lives in whatever way they choose to do so. Therapy can be of great support in times of crisis. It involves the provision of professional assistance when we are experiencing personal difficulties in order to help us alleviate those difficulties. Nearly every one of us face challenges and difficulties at some stage in our lives and sometimes they can be overwhelming, resulting in feelings of helplessness. With therapy you can expect to improve your life in many ways, including where the following are concerned:

• Anxiety
• Assertiveness
• Bereavement
• Confidence
• Depression
• Drinking
• Driving Test Nerves
• Emotional Problems
• Exam Nerves
• Guilt Feelings
• Marital Problems
• Memory Improvement
• Mindfulness
• Nervousness
• Panic Attacks
• Pain Management
• Phobias
• Positive Thinking
• Public Speaking
• Relationships
• Relaxation
• Self-Confidence
• Smoking Cessation
• Sports Motivation
• Stress
• Study
• Travel Fright
• Weight Management
• Etcetera

Personal Transformations is also dedicated to educating and training you in developing, improving and transforming your life for the better. Including where your communication-skills and feelings of self-confidence & self-esteem are concerned. Furthermore, you can also receive help and guidance in order to create improvements in your personal and professional relationships, develop your public speaking skills, prepare for interviews, secure employment, secure promotions, set and achieve personal goals in study, sport, business, etcetera. It is a safe, secure and confidential learning environment where you will be professionally encouraged and supported where the realisation of your dreams are concerned. Additionally, David is a graduate of Dublin City University, with an honours degree in education & training and will do everything within his power to help you develop, improve and transform your life for the better.

25/09/2016

Hi Everyone

I hope you all have a good day.

I’ve decided to post a number of the short chapters from the autobiographical self-help book that I’m currently writing – and part of which can be read in the WordPress blog davidkellymystory.wordpress.com

In this instance, I’m posting the chapter I wrote on forgiveness, and I sincerely hope you like it.

Once again, I hope you’ve a good one and look forward to posting with you again, soon.

David

Forgiveness

"The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong." - Mahatma Gandhi

According to the book ‘A Course in Miracles’, by Helen Schucman, all disease comes from a state of un-forgiveness. Schucman also believes that whenever we are ill, we need to look around to see who it is that we need to forgive. Personally speaking, upon realising just how powerful the power of forgiveness actually is, I immediately began forgiving everyone in my life - myself included; for any suffering that I had experienced over the years. And incredibly, within a relatively short period of time, I quickly became aware of a very real improvement in my health; as well as overall, in just about every other area of my life.

15/09/2016

Take Control of Your Life – Why NOT to Play the ‘Blame Game’

Hi Everyone

I hope you all had a good day.

This evening, I’d like to speak with you about why it’s so important that we do not play the ‘blame game’. Blame is one of the surest ways to stay in a problem and whenever we blame someone else we are not taking responsibility for our own lives. Because when we blame another we are giving away our spiritual power. Also, if we ever feel that our parents hurt us, it is vital for our spiritual freedom to understand that they were doing the best they could with the understanding, awareness and knowledge that they had when they were rearing us. Furthermore, the only things that they could possibly teach us are what they themselves had been taught.

How much do you know about your parents’ childhoods, especially before the age of ten? I now advise that if it’s still possible for you to find out, ask them. Additionally, if you’re able to find out about your parents’ childhoods and feel that they hurt you during yours, you will more easily understand why they did so. And you will then derive compassion from this same understanding.

However, if you don’t know or can’t find out, try to imagine what it must have been like for them by asking yourself questions like - what kind of childhood would have created an adult to behave in such a way as to hurt you like that? It’s important for you to realise that you need this knowledge for your own freedom and you can’t free yourself until you initially free them and this freedom starts with first forgiving them, because you can’t forgive yourself until you do so. Therefore start now by using the great power of forgiveness that lies within us all and by doing so you will open the doors to the unlimited spiritual power that lies within.

Once again, I hope you all had a great day and look forward to speaking with you later. In the meantime please feel free to comment on this evening’s post which was inspired by Louise Hay’s book ‘You Can Heal Your Life’.

Spiritual Love and best wishes,

David

26/03/2016

Hi Everyone

Hope you’re enjoying the Easter weekend.

I’ve just added some more text to my blog, davidkellymystory.wordpress.com if you’d like to have a read of it.

Also, thanks for all the feedback to date, I appreciate it. Furthermore, I am sincerely glad to know that, for some, it has inspired you to make such positive changes in your lives.

Regards, as I hope you all continue to enjoy the Easter weekend.

David

10/01/2016

Hi Everyone

I hope that you have a great 2016, and remember that it’s the thoughts you think that creates the world within which you live. Therefore, simply, be mindful of your thoughts.

Also, don’t blame or criticise yourself or others for anything that seemingly goes wrong in your life. Because, by doing so, you only diminish your spiritual power; including, where your positive feelings of self-confidence, self-worth, and wellbeing are concerned.

Furthermore, be quick to forgive others and also quick to forgive yourself. Being in a state of forgiveness is a very powerful and spiritually rewarding experience. Whereas, being in a state of non-forgiveness only leads to illness. Also, if initially, you’re finding it hard to forgive yourself or others, begin with being willing to do so; and, thereafter, you will be amazed, just how easy it actually is to do so.

Moreover, remember to live totally in the present moment where all of life’s infinite possibilities exist. Personally, I find meditation is a great way of achieving this state of being. And, while in this pure state, you will find yourself easily letting go of the past; while, also letting the future take care of itself.

Additionally, please be mindful of the importance of positive change in your life, and the need to regularly incorporate it into your life. “It’s not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the ones most responsive to change.” - Charles Darwin (1809-1882)

Wishing you all, a happy and a peaceful New Year,

David

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26/08/2015

Hi Everyone

Hope you all had a good one.

Please remember, never blame anyone when negative things happen in your life. Because, by blaming others, you only give your power away. Instead, mind your thought-patterns, because it is these that are creating everything, both negative and positive, in your life.

Hope you all have a great day tomorrow.

David

20/07/2015

Hi Everyone

Hope you all had a good day.

I myself am really grateful for the fact that I had a really good one today. Also, I’ve just said goodbye to my last client of the day. And I am now feeling so grateful for the fact that I do what I love and I love what I do.

As always, please remember to be mindful of your thoughts, because it’s your thoughts that are creating your future…

Slán agus beannacht ag an tam seo.

David

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13/07/2015

Hi Everyone

Hope you all had a good weekend and are now enjoying today and living in mindfully in the present moment.

Now, I would like to share with you, a quote from the Dalai Lama XIV regarding his interpretation of blessing.

“Blessing must arise from within your own mind. It is not something that comes from outside. When the positive qualities of your mind increase and the negativities decrease, that is what blessing means. The Tibetan word for blessing …means transforming into magnificent potential. Therefore, blessing refers to the development of virtuous qualities you did not previously have and the improvement of those good qualities you have already developed” - Dalai Lama XIV

God bless and look forward to interacting with you all later.

David

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08/07/2015

Hi Everyone

Please remember to be mindful of your thoughts, because it’s your thoughts that are creating your future…

As always, I look forward to any comments or questions that you may have on clinical hypnotherapy and psychotherapy.

In the meantime you might like to check-out my website: http://personaltransformations.ie And on handheld-devices: www.personaltransformations.mobi

Also, for those of you who would like to read how and why I decided to become a therapist, you can do so by visiting my Blog: davidkellymystory.wordpress.com


Have a good one and look forward to chatting with you later!!

David

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25/06/2015

Hi Everyone

I decided to publish to WordPress and would appreciate if you would please read what I have written. The address of the site is: davidkellymystory.wordpress.com

Also, if you do, I sincerely hope that you enjoy reading it. Additionally, as well as finding it interesting, I hope it will serve as an educational and inspirational experience for you.

In short, it outlines how happy my life was while living in Dublin. And then relates how my life got even better when I moved to Trim in County Meath. Next it tells how tragedy struck and continued to strike for approximately two years. Including, where several accidents, a house fire, unemployment, marital separation, near death experience, serious illness, deaths of loved ones and more are concerned.

Next, it relates how I managed to successfully rise above all of these tragic circumstances and very significantly tells how I died, experienced the presence of God and thereafter how, what we commonly describe as miracles, occurred in my life.

Furthermore, you will also learn how with prayer, hypnosis and meditation, along with developing a healthy lifestyle, setting proactive goals and having a positive attitude, I went on to achieve and thankfully continue to achieve what society normally perceives and describes as success, in my life.

However, infinitely more important, is the fact that today I am alive and have excellent health along with love, happiness and peace in my life.

Best regards,

David

24/06/2015

Good morning everyone, and hope you all got off to a good start.

Also, hope that everything has been going well for you lately in most, if not in every area of your lives?

However, for those of you who have been experiencing sorrow, pain, suffering and or any other negative feelings recently, hopefully you will take comfort in the following words of the Lebanese poet Khalil Gibran “Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars”.

Hope you all have a good one and remember to be mindful of your thoughts…because it is your thoughts that are creating your futures.

God bless and look forward to interacting with you throughout the day.

David

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14/06/2015

Hypnosis – FAQ

Hi everyone and hope you are all enjoying the weekend.

Unfortunately most people I speak with initially have a misconception regarding what hypnosis is. And, therefore I’d now like to clarify as concisely as I can what it really is and do so with the following page from my website htpp://personaltransformations.ie entitled ‘Hypnosis FAQ’ and hope that you find it interesting, informative and helpful for you.


What is hypnosis?
Unlike the TV or movie version, hypnosis is simply a state of deep relaxation. And, in this state, the critical factor is set aside and the desired change is then hopefully brought about.

Can anyone be hypnotised?
Yes. In fact most people experience hypnosis several times a day without even realising it. For example, we all experience hypnosis while day-dreaming, listening to relaxing music and reading books. Also, the state experienced directly on entering and leaving sleep is hypnosis.

What does hypnosis feel like?
Because hypnosis is merely an altered state of awareness, at no time will you be asleep or unaware of what is going on. However, you will feel more relaxed than you normally do. Also, feelings of peace, serenity and well-being generally accompany this feeling of deep relaxation.

Can I do something against my will?
No. In fact, if anything is ever innocently suggested to you in hypnosis that is against, for example, your morals or beliefs, you can simply ignore it.

What about stage-hypnosis?
Successful stage-hypnosis relies on willing volunteers. And, those people who do volunteer have a desire to perform in the show. Hypnosis merely helps them to release any inhibitions that they may ordinarily have while doing so. However, when a fully qualified hypnotherapist is using hypnosis to help you, he is using it to access your subconscious in order to bring about positive change in your life.

Will I remember everything during hypnosis?
Yes. Due to the fact that you are in a conscious state of awareness at all times during hypnosis, you will remember everything.

Am I giving up control during hypnosis?
No. You will be in complete control during the entire session. Furthermore, always remember, that the only one who thinks in your mind is you - therefore, the only one that can control your mind is you.

Are there any after effects?
After each session most people feel very relaxed, while at the same time being in complete control of all their faculties. Also, when their consultation is complete, they are able to perform any task that they normally perform on a daily basis, such as driving, working in their usual occupations, etcetera. Additionally, most people experience a very pleasant increase of positive energy after each session.

Why is hypnosis sometimes linked to magic, mysticism and mystery?

Once again, TV and movies are mostly responsible for this. However, there is nothing magical, mystical or mysterious about hypnosis. In fact, it is a normal, natural phenomenon that is freely available to everyone.

I hope that you enjoyed reading the above piece on hypnosis and also hope that you found it to be interesting, informative and helpful for you. Furthermore, if there are any questions you have for me on this topic or any other topic related to my work as a clinical hypnotherapist & psychotherapist, please feel free to ask me and if I can answer them I will. Hope you enjoy the rest of your weekend and best regards, David

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12/06/2015

Take Control of Your Life – Why NOT to Play the ‘Blame Game’

Good morning everyone and how are you this morning?

This morning I’d like to speak with you about why it’s so important that we do not play the ‘blame game’. Blame is one of the surest ways to stay in a problem and whenever we blame someone else we are not taking responsibility for our own lives. Because when we blame another we are giving away our spiritual power. Also, if we ever feel that our parents hurt us, it is vital for our spiritual freedom to understand that they were doing the best they could with the understanding, awareness and knowledge that they had when they were rearing us. Furthermore, the only things that they could possibly teach us are what they themselves had been taught.

How much do you know about your parents’ childhoods, especially before the age of ten? I now advise that if it’s still possible for you to find out, ask them. Additionally, if you’re able to find out about your parents’ childhoods and feel that they hurt you during yours, you will more easily understand why they did so. And you will then derive compassion from this same understanding. However, if you don’t know or can’t find out, try to imagine what it must have been like for them by asking yourself questions like what kind of childhood would have created an adult to behave in such a way as to hurt you like that? It’s important for you to realise that you need this knowledge for your own freedom and you can’t free yourself until you initially free them and this freedom starts with first forgiving them, because you can’t forgive yourself until you do so. Therefore start now by using the great power of forgiveness that lies within us all and by doing so you will open the doors to the unlimited spiritual power that lies within you.

Hope you all have a great day and look forward to speaking with you later. In the meantime please feel free to comment on this morning’s post which was inspired by Louise Hay’s book ‘You Can Heal Your Life’.

Spiritual Love and best wishes,

David

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11/06/2015

Hi everyone, just said goodnight to my last client of the day and as always I am so grateful that I do what I love and I love what I do. Goodnight, God bless and look forward to chatting with you again tomorrow...

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11/06/2015

Hi Everyone...hope you are all having a good day today and remember to be mindful of your thoughts, because these are the most powerful seeds of creation that you have…including the fact that they are now quite literally creating your future.

My thought for the day: “Change your thoughts and you change your world” – Norman Vincent Peale

Have a good one and talk with you later…spiritual love and best wishes, David

10/06/2015

Hope your day has gotten off to a good start and please remember to always try to have a good attitude - because your attitude will determine your altitude.
Also, please remember that by focusing on the good of what we have in this life, to include our health, loved ones, wealth, etcetera and deep within us being grateful for them - we are more likely to retain them, while at the same time sowing the seeds that will manifest more of what we already have. Basically we focus on becomes our reality, therefore focus on the good of what you already have and importantly - remember to be grateful for it. My mantra for today is: "I always have an attitude of gratitude for all the good in my life.".

Thanks for dropping by and if you haven't already Liked this page, I'd be very grateful if you could do so now. Have a good one and look forward to chatting with you again later. Thanks - David

09/06/2015

Just preparing for another another day and what a lovely one it is too. That said, isn't every day we're alive a lovely day? May I suggest the following mantra by Emile Coue to help you have a good one: "Every day in every way I am getting better and better." Hope you all DO have a good one!! And, looking forward to your comments and posts throughout the day, and remember - try to keep your thoughts positive - because it's your thoughts that create your future. Talk later please God...

08/06/2015

Just said goodbye to my last client for the day and am really happy with how the therapy session went. I do what I love and love what I do and so am already looking forward to another day with clients tomorrow. Will spend some time now here on Facebook and then time for bed

06/06/2015

Am busy all day with clients...however, I thank God that I love what I do and I do what I love, Amen

06/06/2015

Every day in every way more and more people seem to be suffering from what we commonly call stress. Also, I’ve noticed that people experiencing it are getting younger and younger. However, what is stress? How do we respond to it? How do we manage it, etcetera? Hopefully, the following post here on my page will help answer these questions for you.

What is Stress?
Stress is a normal physical response to events that make us feel threatened, or upset our balance in some way. When we sense danger, whether it be real or imagined, the body's defences kick into high gear in a rapid, automatic process known as the ‘fight-or-flight-or-freeze’ reaction, and nowadays also known as the ‘stress response’.
The ‘stress response’ is the body’s way of protecting us and when working properly, it helps us to stay focused, energetic, and alert. In emergency situations, stress can save our lives — for example, giving us extra strength to defend ourselves, or prompting us to slam on the brakes to avoid an accident. The ‘stress response’ also helps us to rise-up and meet challenges. Stress is what keeps us on our toes during a presentation at work, sharpens our concentration when we’re attempting the winning penalty-kick, or drives us to study for an exam when we’d rather be watching TV. However, beyond a certain point, stress stops being helpful and starts causing major damage to our health, our moods, our productivity, our relationships, and our quality of life.

The Body’s Stress Response
When we perceive a threat, our nervous systems respond by releasing a flood of stress hormones, including adrenaline and cortisol. These hormones rouse the body for emergency action. Our hearts pound faster, muscles tighten, blood pressure rises, breath quickens, and our senses become sharper. These physical changes increase our strength and stamina, speed our reaction time and enhance our focus - preparing us to either fight or flee from the danger at hand.

How do we respond to Stress?
It's important to learn how to recognise when our stress levels are out of control. The most dangerous thing about stress is how easily it can creep up on us. We get used to it. It starts to feel familiar, even normal. We don't notice how much it's affecting us, even as it takes a heavy toll. The signs and symptoms of stress overload can be almost anything that affects the mind, body and behaviour in many ways, and everyone experiences stress differently. Not only can overwhelming stress lead to serious mental and physical health problems, it can also take a toll on our relationships, both at home and at work, etcetera.
Stress Management
How to Reduce, Prevent, and Cope with Stress
It may seem that there’s nothing you can do about stress. The bills won’t stop coming, there will never be more hours in the day, and your career and family responsibilities will always be demanding. But you have more control than you might think. In fact, the simple realization that you’re in control of your life is the foundation of stress management. Managing stress is all about taking charge: of your thoughts, emotions, schedule, and the way you deal with problems.
Identify the sources of stress in your life
Stress management starts with identifying the sources of stress in your life. This isn’t as easy as it sounds. Your true sources of stress aren’t always obvious, and it’s all too easy to overlook your own stress-inducing thoughts, feelings, and behaviours. Sure, you may know that you’re constantly worried about work deadlines. But maybe it’s your procrastination, rather than the actual job demands, that leads to deadline stress.
To identify your true sources of stress, look closely at your habits, attitude, and excuses:
• Do you explain away stress as temporary (“I just have a million things going on right now”) even though you can’t remember the last time you took a breather?
• Do you define stress as an integral part of your work or home life (“Things are always crazy around here”) or as a part of your personality (“I have a lot of nervous energy, that’s all”).
• Do you blame your stress on other people or outside events, or view it as entirely normal and unexceptional?
Until you accept responsibility for the role you play in creating or maintaining it, your stress level will remain outside your control.

Start a Stress Journal
A stress journal can help you identify the regular stressors in your life and the way you deal with them. Each time you feel stressed keep track of it in your journal. As you keep a daily log, you will begin to see patterns and common themes. Write down:
• What caused your stress (make a guess if you’re unsure)
• How you felt, both physically and emotionally
• How you acted in response
• What you did to make yourself feel better
Look at how you currently cope with stress
Think about the ways you currently manage and cope with stress in your life. Your stress journal can help you identify them. Are your coping strategies healthy or unhealthy, helpful or unproductive? Unfortunately, many people cope with stress in ways that compound the problem.
Unhealthy ways of coping with stress
These coping strategies may temporarily reduce stress, but they cause more damage in the long run:
• Smoking
• Drinking too much
• Overeating or under-eating
• Zoning out for hours in front of the TV or computer
• Withdrawing from friends, family, and activities • Using pills or drugs to relax
• Sleeping too much
• Procrastinating
• Filling up every minute of the day to avoid facing problems
• Taking out your stress on others (lashing out, angry outbursts, physical violence)
Learning healthier ways to manage stress
If your methods of coping with stress aren’t contributing to your greater emotional and physical health, it’s time to find healthier ones. There are many healthy ways to manage and cope with stress, but they all require change. You can either change the situation or change your reaction. When deciding which option to choose, it’s helpful to think of the four As: avoid, alter, adapt, or accept.
Since everyone has a unique response to stress, there is no “one size fits all” solution to managing it. No single method works for everyone or in every situation, so experiment with different techniques and strategies. Focus on what makes you feel calm and in control.
Dealing with Stressful Situations: The Four A’s
Change the situation:
• Avoid the stressor
• Alter the stressor Change your reaction:
• Adapt to the stressor
• Accept the stressor

Stress management strategy #1: Avoid unnecessary stress
Not all stress can be avoided, and it’s not healthy to avoid a situation that needs to be addressed. You may be surprised, however, by the number of stressors in your life that you can eliminate.
• Learn how to say “no” – Know your limits and stick to them. Whether in your personal or professional life, taking on more than you can handle is a sure-fire recipe for stress.
• Avoid people who stress you out – If someone consistently causes stress in your life and you can’t turn the relationship around, limit the amount of time you spend with that person or end the relationship entirely.
• Take control of your environment – If the evening news makes you anxious, turn the TV off. If traffic’s got you tense, take a longer but less-travelled route. If going to the market is an unpleasant chore, do your grocery shopping online.
• Avoid hot-button topics – If you get upset over religion or politics, cross them off your conversation list. If you repeatedly argue about the same subject with the same people, stop bringing it up or excuse yourself when it’s the topic of discussion.
• Pare down your to-do list – Analyse your schedule, responsibilities, and daily tasks. If you’ve got too much on your plate, distinguish between the “shoulds” and the “musts.” Drop tasks that aren’t truly necessary to the bottom of the list or eliminate them entirely.
Stress management strategy #2: Alter the situation
If you can’t avoid a stressful situation, try to alter it. Figure out what you can do to change things so the problem doesn’t present itself in the future. Often, this involves changing the way you communicate and operate in your daily life.
• Express your feelings instead of bottling them up. If something or someone is bothering you, communicate your concerns in an open and respectful way. If you don’t voice your feelings, resentment will build and the situation will likely remain the same.
• Be willing to compromise. When you ask someone to change their behaviour, be willing to do the same. If you both are willing to bend at least a little, you’ll have a good chance of finding a happy middle ground.
• Be more assertive. Don’t take a backseat in your own life. Deal with problems head on, doing your best to anticipate and prevent them. If you’ve got an exam to study for and your chatty roommate just got home, say up front that you only have five minutes to talk.
• Manage your time better. Poor time management can cause a lot of stress. When you’re stretched too thin and running behind, it’s hard to stay calm and focused. But if you plan ahead and make sure you don’t overextend yourself, you can alter the amount of stress you’re under.
Stress management strategy #3: Adapt to the stressor
If you can’t change the stressor, change yourself. You can adapt to stressful situations and regain your sense of control by changing your expectations and attitude.
• Reframe problems. Try to view stressful situations from a more positive perspective. Rather than fuming about a traffic jam, look at it as an opportunity to pause and regroup, listen to your favourite radio station, or enjoy some alone time.
• Look at the big picture. Take perspective of the stressful situation. Ask yourself how important it will be in the long run. Will it matter in a month? A year? Is it really worth getting upset over? If the answer is no, focus your time and energy elsewhere.
• Adjust your standards. Perfectionism is a major source of avoidable stress. Stop setting yourself up for failure by demanding perfection. Set reasonable standards for yourself and others, and learn to be okay with “good enough.”
• Focus on the positive. When stress is getting you down, take a moment to reflect on all the things you appreciate in your life, including your own positive qualities and gifts. This simple strategy can help you keep things in perspective.
Adjusting Your Attitude
How you think can have a profound effect on your emotional and physical well-being. Each time you think a negative thought about yourself, your body reacts as if it were in the throes of a tension-filled situation. If you see good things about yourself, you are more likely to feel good; the reverse is also true. Eliminate words such as "always," "never," "should," and "must." These are tell-tale marks of self-defeating thoughts.

Stress management strategy #4: Accept the things you can’t change
Some sources of stress are unavoidable. You can’t prevent or change stressors such as the death of a loved one, a serious illness, or a national recession. In such cases, the best way to cope with stress is to accept things as they are. Acceptance may be difficult, but in the long run, it’s easier than railing against a situation you can’t change.
• Don’t try to control the uncontrollable. Many things in life are beyond our control— particularly the behaviour of other people. Rather than stressing out over them, focus on the things you can control such as the way you choose to react to problems.
• Look for the upside. As the saying goes, “What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger.” When facing major challenges, try to look at them as opportunities for personal growth. If your own poor choices contributed to a stressful situation, reflect on them and learn from your mistakes.
• Share your feelings. Talk to a trusted friend face to face or make an appointment with a therapist. The simple act of expressing what you’re going through can be very cathartic, even if there’s nothing you can do to alter the stressful situation. Opening up is not a sign of weakness and it won’t make you a burden to others. In fact, most friends will be flattered that you trust them enough to confide in them, and it will only strengthen your bond.
• Learn to forgive. Accept the fact that we live in an imperfect world and that people make mistakes. Let go of anger and resentments. Free yourself from negative energy by forgiving and moving on.
Stress management strategy #5: Make time for fun and relaxation
Beyond a take-charge approach and a positive attitude, you can reduce stress in your life by nurturing yourself. If you regularly make time for fun and relaxation, you’ll be in a better place to handle life’s stressors.
Healthy ways to relax and recharge
• Go for a walk.
• Spend time in nature.
• Call a good friend.
• Sweat out tension with a good workout.
• Write in your journal.
• Take a long bath.
• Light scented candles. • Savour a warm cup of coffee or tea.
• Play with a pet.
• Work in your garden.
• Get a massage.
• Curl up with a good book.
• Listen to music.
• Watch a comedy.
Don’t get so caught up in the hustle and bustle of life that you forget to take care of your own needs. Nurturing yourself is a necessity, not a luxury.
• Set aside relaxation time. Include rest and relaxation in your daily schedule. Don’t allow other obligations to encroach. This is your time to take a break from all responsibilities and recharge your batteries.
• Connect with others. Spend time with positive people who enhance your life. A strong support system will buffer you from the negative effects of stress.
• Do something you enjoy every day. Make time for leisure activities that bring you joy, whether it be stargazing, playing the piano, or working on your bike.
• Keep your sense of humour. This includes the ability to laugh at yourself. The act of laughing helps your body fight stress in a number of ways.
Stress management strategy #6: Adopt a healthy lifestyle
You can increase your resistance to stress by strengthening your physical health.
• Exercise regularly. Physical activity plays a key role in reducing and preventing the effects of stress. Make time for at least 30 minutes of exercise, three times per week. Nothing beats aerobic exercise for releasing pent-up stress and tension.
• Eat a healthy diet. Well-nourished bodies are better prepared to cope with stress, so be mindful of what you eat. Start your day right with breakfast, and keep your energy up and your mind clear with balanced, nutritious meals throughout the day.
• Reduce caffeine and sugar. The temporary "highs" caffeine and sugar provide often end in with a crash in mood and energy. By reducing the amount of coffee, soft drinks, chocolate, and sugar snacks in your diet, you’ll feel more relaxed and you’ll sleep better.
• Avoid alcohol, ci******es, and drugs. Self-medicating with alcohol or drugs may provide an easy escape from stress, but the relief is only temporary. Don’t avoid or mask the issue at hand; deal with problems head on and with a clear mind.
• Get enough sleep. Adequate sleep fuels your mind, as well as your body. Feeling tired will increase your stress because it may cause you to think irrationally.
More help for stress management
• How to Stop Worrying: Self-Help Strategies for Anxiety Relief
• Relaxation Techniques for Stress: Finding the Relaxation Exercises That Work for You
• Stress Relief in the Moment: Using Your Senses to Quickly Change Your Response to Stress
• 12 Ways to Reduce Stress with Music: Fill Your Life with Music that Reduces Daily Stress
• Stress Relief Guide: Articles that help you recognize and understand stress, and take steps to bring stress into balance.
• Preventing Burnout: Signs, Symptoms, Causes, and Coping Strategies
Causes of stress
• Stress at Work: Tips to Reduce and Manage Job and Work
• Job Loss and Unemployment Stress: Tips for Staying Positive During Your Job Search
• Caregiver Stress and Burnout: Tips for Recharging and Finding Balance
• Stress Symptoms, Signs, and Causes: The Effects of Stress Overload and What You Can Do About It

Authors: Melinda Smith, M.A. and Robert Segal, M.A. Last updated: February 2015.

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